Tuesday, June 30, 2009



Last post from the 360 blog.

So I was having a very intense and interesting conversation with a dude who was actually trying to get to know me but before he could do that this is what he told me, he started telling me about his 27 year old cousin who has 7 children and 2 with his current baby momma who happens to be white. Now the baby momma takes care of their children plus pays this man child support for the other 7 kids meaning they hitting her check up for child support payments. She also pays this man’s cell bill and all other bills, and in addition bought him an expensive SUV, and he doesn’t work he is working on his “music” while she is footing all the bills cause you know he a rapper (insert eye roll). Now dude kept going while I was sitting there looking at my phone like it had a virus on it he continued to tell me all this to illustrate the point that this white woman that is taking care of her man is supporting him in every way possible and that black women do not do this for their men. He said that instead of a black woman rushing to help her better half we think about it first and then we might help or not, he also stated that white women take care of their men and are giving in all areas and that black women are not.

Being a black woman my argument was well historically white women have always had more then the average black woman we have had to work our asses off to take care of business and to get what we wanted and needed with no help. Some of us have come from homes where there weren’t two parents in the house and therefore we saw mommas busting their asses to raise us while holding down the household as well as a job with no man in sight. While in a white woman’s household she may have seen her mother catering to her father and learned that is how a woman should treat her man but in our households we may have learned that we have to work for what we want and expect no help, and everyone should pull their own weight So it may be that these are learned behaviors. I also stated that if his ass is able-bodied to work then he should work everyday I mean why he can’t at least get a part time and bring in some money into the household. Especially when his bitch ass has went out and made 7 kids in addition to the two he has with the current woman he is living off of.

I mean this woman doesn’t have a problem with the situation and more power to her but as a black woman I don’t want to be compared to someone who is doing this for her man. She may be able to do it and more power to her but does that mean I am not as worthy a partner as she is because I can’t treat your ass like you’re king tut? My thing is though not all white women are like this right? Because if they are then I guess I am moving my ass to Africa where I have a chance of finding a black man who still dates a black woman because this too me is just over and beyond the call of duty. I mean by all means support each other while in a relationship but you getting the king treatment while I work my ass off to support all your children plus our children we have together plus buy you shit and run our household is a bit much to me black white or purple.

But I said all this to say because we are black women does that mean we are not as giving and sacrificing as our white counterparts? Do we have a tendency not to support our black men so they have no choice but to go to white women who will? I mean I know we have all heard the stereotypes of what black and white women do and for stereotypes to exist there has to be some truth to them even if it is just the tiniest truth. So I want your take on this whole situation, what do you think about this? I mean should I be offended when a black man tells me that white women are better than black women because they support their black men in every way shape and form? Should I be offended when he tells me that white women are better than black women? Should I be worried about the state of black on black love or has it already died and I am the only one holding up the blood stained banner for it? I mean ladies and gentlemen tell me something cause this sista is so flabbergasted right now…

Tuesday May 29, 2007 - 11:50pm (PDT)



If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away,

if he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition ( for spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves, for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve

then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.

He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,

Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything.He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are....even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending....compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationship...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists Of two WHOLE individuals....look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes....when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him-he takes it for granted.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies.... You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE. They say it takes a minute to find a special person,an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and a entire lifetime to forget them.


Monday September 4, 2006 - 11:40am




Jan 21 - Feb 19
Ruling Planet: URANUS. The God of unexpected sexual twists and turns

Aquarius make much better friends than lovers, but when a typical Aquarius gets some bang-bang, it's more an intellectual experience than an emotional one. Looks aren't important to Aquarius in a relationship; it's the mind and spirit of a lover that turns Aquarius on. They are very entertaining in bed and are probably the most inventive of all the signs. Mental stimulation is more important to them than physical, which means that pornography gets them hot! Aquarius are impatient and like sex to be fast and satisfying. They are very particular about hygiene and contraception and sleeping around holds little interest for them.

Mutual masturbation.

A Dildo. Whether gay, straight, male or female, Aquarians will have some fun with this.

He has amazing staying power in the sack. He can keep at it and control himself for as long as it takes for YOU to finish! He's up for anything too. Role playing, S&M, posing nude in the backyard at 5am... he's just not into 3somes, swinging or open relationships if YOU are involved. He'll do that for fun, but not with the love of his life.

she’s looking for a lover who will be upfront with her, but until she finds him, she will make do with whoever is available. LOVE freaks her out. She likes keeping her emotions under tight control and may come across as cold, but she's just protecting herself.

Lie down as if you are top and tailing and gently tickle and stroke the ankles and the calves. Don't tickle for
giggles, but tease. After awhile, do the same with your tongue. Lick up, down and all around. Anywhere above
the foot and below the knee is fair game. Lightly nip the ankle of your Aquarian, they may laugh, but it's not
laughter from tickles, it's a release of tension that will most definitely lead to some action!


Feb 20 - March 20
Ruling Planet: NEPTUNE
the God in charge of delicious dreams, dangerous deceptions and sexual fantasies

sexually speaking, Pisces is putty in your hands. Anything you want, anything, is only a question away. If you're looking for someone who will go the extra mile to discover all your secret moan zones, then Pisces is for you! When a typical Piscean makes out, it's an act of romance rather than pure pleasure. Pisces is the sign of love itself. They are so romantic and want satin sheets and candles, poetry and a full moon. Music also gets them in the mood. One of their least appetizing traits is their ability to become very, very jealous. Sometimes they are so scared of losing the fairy-tale romance that they ruin the happy ending themselves.

Pisces is all about Oral affections!

A copy of the Kama Sutra, since your fish is into almost anything

He is romantic and has the reputation of being a womanizer. The girlfriend of a Piscean man should keep her eye on the ball as he can be a bit flighty. But he does make an excellent lover. He's from the old school that sex should be an almost out of body experience, and if he's showering his attentions on you, you're in for a hell of a good ride!

she needs romance. It's the very air that she breathes. She needs to be held gently and whispered sweet nothings to but when it comes to between the sheets action, she's never happy doing the same old', same old' when she knows there are more exciting options at hand.

the Pisces Zesty-zone is their feet! If you want to make Pisces your Love Slave, start with a warm, scented footbath and soak their feet for 10 minutes. Then sit in front of them, cross-legged, and rub their feet firmly through the water. Use kneading motions that run from their ankles to the tips of their toes. After 5 minutes, get a scrub brush and clean their tootsies with lots of TLC, dry them off and lightly massage peppermint oil all over their feet, paying close attention to between their toes. Pisces REALLY gets off on this! Once oiled up, gently kiss each toe, one by one. Then let your tongue take over and you're in baby!!!


March 21-April 20
Ruling Planet: MARS
the bonk now/think later God of War, aggression and action!

Sexually, Aries is an explosion waiting to happen! The excitement is often in the chase more than the actual conquest though and while they may appear to want to dominate, they do not want a submissive partner. Routine brings boredom to sex for Aries, so if you're only comfortable with the missionary position, go for another sign, but if you like forceful personalities and enjoy pretending you're a human Twistie, then you've found paradise with an Aries.

Always on top and always in charge

Handcuffs! Like I said, Aries likes to take charge!

the Aries male is loud, domineering and 100% stud! He's from the bump n grind school of lovemaking so if you're looking for romantic dinners by candlelight and long walks on the beach,
keep looking! He's the original 5-minute man so if you're turned on by ultra-macho grunt-and-groaning types, you've just found your ticket to heaven! He's not prone to cheat unless you bore him in bed and he likes sex fast and furious baby!

she views sex as more of a physical act than something from a soppy romance novel. If you're a bored exec and want to find out what it's like to be treated like a piece of meat, then go for a one night stand with an Aries chick. She'll be gone before you wake up and may not remember your name the next time you meet. She's got a touch of KINK to her personality so don't get freaked out when she talks dirty or puts you over her knee for a spanking. She's all woman, but are you man enough to handle her?

If you want to seduce an Aries, running your fingers through their hair is an awesome starting point! And licking and nibbling around their face or neck will get them going too! Just be careful to keep your saliva at bay. Drool is not cool!


April 21 - May 21
Ruling Planet: VENUS
the Goddess in charge of love, beauty and sex

Taureans are ahead of the game when it comes to love coz they are ruled by VENUS, the planet of Love! Taurus has all the qualities a lover desires, including sensuality, loyalty and
faithfulness. When a typical Taurus makes love, it's the most physical and natural pleasure in the world. They believe the romantic approach to sex almost always pays off so they will happily cook dinner, buy flowers, and light candles for someone they wanna bang. They don't like to rush things and take everything, including sex, slowly.

the one Taurus enjoys most is the Missionary. Some may say this is so unadventurous, but Taurus is very practical
and this is the most comfortable.

A battery powered "erotic massager"

The Taurean man needs a woman who will want to stay home to eat and make love. He can be stubborn and is known to sulk like a little boy, but he LOVES making up!! (Rrrrow!) He likes to take things slow and gently and can last for hours, always waiting for HER to finish before rolling over to sleep.

she is great at back massages and sex in general. She makes an art of lovemaking. Just kissing her can bring some men to the big "O". Her touch is gentle and tender, it excites and caresses and when in the mood, she too can go for hours at a time, days on end.

There's nothing Taurus enjoys more than having their neck kissed and their earlobes nibbled. Light, feathery caresses up and down the neck followed by gentle licks, no biting, will make a female writhe with delight and a male stand at attention within seconds.


May 22 - June 21
Ruling Planet: MERCURY
The swiftest God in the skies, who also happens to be in charge of ultra-extreme raunchy talk

Talking about sex is Gemini's favorite hobby and doing it comes a close second. Gemini's love flirting and lap up attention from the opposite sex, but sometimes that's all they're looking for. They need a lot of variety when it comes to sex - dirty weekends away, a quickie in a shop doorway, serious groping under the table at a fancy restaurant. A lot of Gemini's are bisexual too and can often be drawn to those of the same sex.

As long as it's different every time, they're not fussy, but if they must choose, it's that naughty number right after 68, since they can come up for air if they need to.

Any illustrated book about kinky sex, so Gemini can pick up some wild, new ideas

He likes to give AND receive and can be quite inventive. He's a lights on, in front of the mirror kinda guy and if you make a few subtle noises and talk a wee bit dirty, he'll be very happy.

she is more interested in IQ than private parts. If she can't respect the intellect, then satisfaction is not possible for her. She may sleep around forever and never find her true love and she is not the most faithful of the signs. She likes sex on the run, in an airplane toilet, in the storeroom at work, in the backseat of a car....

Focus on the shoulders, arms and legs of a Gemini and you're headed for the good books. They love a good massage and their hands are so sensitive that even having their fingernails played with sends shivers up their spine! Kiss up and down each of your Gemini's arms, sneak in a few licks, nips and nibbles. If you get one or two yelps, then you know you're doing something right. Then, move onto the fingers, slowly kiss, lick, nip and nibble each fingertip, then pull out the killer move - suck on each finger, slowly, as if it's a lollipop. I'll almost offer a money back guarantee on this one working!


June 22 - July 23
Ruling Planet: THE MOON
which isn't a planet at all but the satellite responsible for this waters sign's many mood swings!

Love and sex go together for Cancer. They need to feel secure in love before they can relax in sex and Cancer often feels a little bit guilty after doing the deed because they usually associate sex with babies, especially the women, who either get pregnant at the drop of a hat or take longer than usual. All Cancers WANT to be parents! Cancers become sexually excited when they feel secure. They are turned on by home cooked meals and partners who love kids. In so many ways, Cancer is the dream partner!

Any position that's comfortable and involves Cancer lying flat on their back with all their sensitive areas exposed!

A drink or joint that will relax the overly-cautious crab!

He is a sensitive lover and will put his partner's needs before his own. He has a tenderness about him that drives women wild! If the Cancer guy decides he's in it for the long haul, he'll do whatever it takes to keep his lover happy in and out of the bedroom. Oh, and he's a BREAST man!!

She oozes sexiness and is born to mate!! Compliments and kissing will win her over, so as you're nibbling on her ear, whisper "you're so beautiful" to get her quivering. Perhaps the Vincent (Big Brother) growl would work on a Cancer woman?

Concentrate on the breasts and pecs of Cancer to really get them going. Start by kissing and brushing up against them.
Licking the Cancer female's nipple through her top will excite her, but don't 'dive right in' coz you're likely to scare her. It's the complete opposite for the Cancer male who will LOVE it if you get straight to the point. Squeeze his pecs and bite his body and you'll have him bouncing off the walls in no time!


July 24 - August 23
Ruling Planet: THE SUN
which isn't a planet at all, but a star, and just like Leo's opinion of them, it's the centre of our solar system!

Leos can be very 'into themselves' when they bonk. It's not that they don't make their partner feel special, it's just that they often forget about them as they secretly high-five themselves for scoring again! Leo does actually want more from a partner than just sex though. Leo wants love and friendship too. They can be very romantic, but when they get into bed, it's not an experience they're about to have, it's a show! They like to perform... and they take requests!
"Doing it" is the ultimate stress buster for Leo and they are pretty damn good at it, but they need constant praise for their outstanding performance.

Receiving 'oral affections', since Leo is all about getting serviced!

A camera or a game of Strip Poker will get the cat purring... or perhaps you can use them both together!

You are the King of the Jungle and expect to be treated that way! You are a good lover because you don't like to fail at anything. You are sexy and have an aura of sexiness that is difficult to deny. But, you will let anyone adore you, so your partner has to make the effort or you will pad off to your next Lioness!!

you are elegant and sexy without even trying. Men love you and women want to be you. You like to play cat and mouse with men and command respect. In bed, you are a real panther and can scare the pants off most men. You adore raw sex, so your partner should go with you and enjoy it. You're a once in a lifetime experience!

a Leo's 'moan zone' is his or her back. First of all, ask your Leo to roll onto his/her tummy. Start with a gentle scratch that runs from the top of the ass to the base of the skull. I'm not talking about tender tickles or a tantalizing tease - I mean a REAL back scratch, coz if there's one thing cat’s love, it's a scratch! After a minute or so, get out the massage oil and spill it into a snaky pattern on Leo's back. Then rub all over. Keep doing this until you know Leo is ready to roll over. If they start falling asleep, give them a gentle prod in a delicate place! Once Leo is ready to roll over, don't let them! Leo will be excited by your control. YOU
decide when it's time to 'flip your feline' over and get into the good stuff!


August 24 - September 23
Ruling Planet: Mercury
the God in charge of intellect and speed... but don't worry because Virgo likes to take their time in the sack!!

Virgos have two sides to their personality. The Virgin and the Vixen. They may want you to THINK they are all sweet and virginal, but they are definitely NOT! However, Virgos are looking for a long term partner, not a one night stand or an affair! They tend to seduce with finesse, charm and subtlety so you may not even realize you're being lured by a Virgo!! Once Virgo has been in a relationship for awhile, they get engrossed in housework and things like that, which can cause a serious dip in libido. Do NOT let this happen! They are definitely more of a "can we cuddle instead" sign that a 'let's get it on!' one when committed.

almost anything, as long as it involves eye contact!

it’s more of a game. Write down five wild sex acts and put them in a bowl. Get Virgo to pick one out at random, and then do what you're told!! Virgo LOVES spontaneous sexuality!

you can be quite boring at times because you have set views on how a woman should be. You don't mean to criticize or offend, but your perfectionist ways may drive your lover loopy! You DO have some kinky ideas though, but it is difficult to get to the bottom of your passion! You are a
creature of habit, so if your lover can get u into the habit of sleeping with her, who knows what might happen?

you are hardworking and careful about your appearance, but you really do fantasize about getting down and dirty! You are a secret romantic and crave the perfect lover. Since the perfect lover doesn't exist, you'll take what you can get! You are quite insecure and need a partner who will adore you. You have strong passion beneath that practical exterior and are just waiting for someone to unearth it!

Virgo's have a VERY sexually sensitive tummy!! If you wanna make them putty in your hands, stroke, lick and kiss their stomach!! The area from the bellybutton DOWN! Once you have them squirming, you can have anything you want!! Just remember to keep one hand on their tummy at all times!!


September 24 - October 23
Ruling Planet: Venus - The planet in charge of beauty, love peace, and stirring sensuality

Libra is one of the sexiest signs in the zodiac, but if Libra can't get what they want from one lover, they will opt for two! They are notorious for having double standards in that situation too. They'll look you in the eye and say "never cheat on me, coz I would never do it to you", even when they have a hot night of passion planned with someone else!
Librans are more turned on 'giving' than 'receiving'. They have a big heart and are the least selfish sign of the Zodiac.
Libras are not very open about their thoughts or fantasies.
They'd rather say nothing than tell the truth and offend or embarrass you. In bed, it takes a while for them to be comfortable enough to tell you exactly what they want.

As long as they are lying down, they're happy!

K.Y. Jelly. I will say no more!

The Libra man sees sex as an exciting adventure and he'd be very keen to do it in kinky places like a restaurant toilet! He likes being a bad boy if there's a chance he might get caught. He'll try out any fantasy you have, but whether or not you can keep a tight hold on his heart remains to be seen. However, he can be a bit of a pushover, and is perfect husband material, and he'd prefer his lover to take the lead. He is romantic and considerate but may suffer from Premature Ejaculation!

The only thing that separates Libra men and women is what's between their legs! Libra girl wants a strong man who understands that she needs her individuality and freedom. She is turned off by burping, farting, and bad breath. Good personal hygiene is crucial if you want to get to 2nd base. Librans are very good at lying to get their own way. When your Libra girl groans in bed, look into her eyes to make sure she's not 'faking it'.

Libra's Love Zone is their lower back and butt, so please, squeeze and pat your Libra's butt whenever you get a chance. When you're kissing, reach under his or her top and stroke the lower part of their back, starting in the middle and working your way down to their butt. Take your time and be gentle! To really drive your Libra wild? Have you ever heard of the term 'Rimming'??? Does it surprise you that a high percentage of Libras are gay?


October 24 - November 22
Ruling Planet: PLUTO, The Roman God of the dead, beginnings and endings. Which basically means
that Scorpios add novel differences to any relationship.

Scorpios are very possessive. They will tense up if you even LOOK at another hottie across the room. But they can be relied on to always be there for you if you need them. You may never really know what your Scorpio is thinking though, because to them, Knowledge is power and they are very good at putting on a straight face to cover up any emotion they are feeling. Scorpios love sex. The dirtier, the better. Get them excited by revealing your filthiest fantasy and offering to act it out.

Anything, as long as it involves dominating your ass.

Ben Wah Balls for the girls, and a Riding Crop for the boys

His sexuality is so strong, it will make you dizzy!! If you are lucky enough to be with a Scorpio boy, you will always be satisfied!! There's a rumor that the Scorpio man is the most skilled in bed. It's true!!! Most are pretty good!! The only thing you don't wanna do is piss him off. Every little thing u do that he doesn't like; he will file away in his little mental rolodex. Piss him off one too many times, and he will wreak his revenge!!!

she may look like a quiet, shy girl, but in bed she is NOT! She is a wildly passionate woman, who is DYNAMO is the bedroom. Just don't piss her off either, coz she can more vengeful than a Scorpio man, and she has no problem causing a scene! Don't talk about other women, or play hard to get, because she will get u back, and it's a game of one-upmanship you will never win.

Since this is one of the horniest signs, it makes sense that their moan zone is between their legs! Then again, their big head (or their mind) is just as easy to turn on. Talking dirty and teasing your Scorpio will get them ready and randy in a flash!! Without getting too graphic, the magic words for today are RUB, RUB, and RUB.


November 23 - December 22
Ruling Planet: JUPITER, God of money, luck and good times between the sheets.

Sagos are playful, laid back and oh-so fun to party with. They are wild, and may be the BADDEST party people you ever meet! One thing to be wary of is that Sagos like to talk BULLSHIT! Don't believe everything they tell you because they are kings at 'talking it up'. Sagos probably make better friends than lovers, but if you happen to score a one-niter with them, be prepared to do stuff you've NEVER done before! Sagos are spontaneous and adventurous and most have probably been caught doing it somewhere public. When they find the right lover, they will give it 100% as long as the commitment is returned.

They are up for anything. Quality AND Quantity.

Handwrite a sexual fantasy of yours and leave it on their pillow. You'll be surprised at what happens next!

Even if he's fat, balding and middle aged, he can still pull the chicks. It's his love and pursuit of happiness that draws the babes to him. Think "Austin Powers" baby, yeah! He is a wee bit selfish though, so be prepared for an "all about me" attitude in the sack. He LOVES doing it, and if you start holding out on him, he's likely to get it somewhere else. He will either amaze his partner with his sexual expertise or be absolute trash in bed!

the Sago woman is a handful! She changes her mind more often than she shaves her armpits, is blunt, oversensitive and takes offense at the strangest things. She's adventurous in the bedroom and also has no problems cheating if her needs are not fulfilled. But can u handle her
open-minded sexuality? She will hide her emotions from you, but don't make the mistake of hiding yours from her. She's looking for someone she can trust 100%, but is quite hypocritical since she can be very untrustworthy herself.

Hips and thighs are extremely sensual for a Sago, so concentrate on massaging and stroking that area and the place in between! Don't be afraid to ask your Sago if you're doing it right coz they would LOVE to tell you! The best way to get them going is to grope their inner thigh in a public


December 23 - January 20
Ruling Planet: SATURN - The God who oversees time, discipline and dedication, which means Capricorn can go the distance - with major staying power - in bed and beyond!!

Capricorns are very good at hiding their emotions, so it's often hard to tell when they are truly, deeply in love. If you have a load of cash, you can almost bet on admiration from a Capricorn because the goat is turned on by money. Like I said before, Capricorn has great sexual stamina and the ability to go all night if they want to!

Spooning! Goat boys and girls love to take, or be taken from behind.

An office desk to "bond" on or an erotic video will loosen up the randy goat.

Imagination isn't a strong suit for Capricorn so doesn’t expect acrobatics in the sack. Sex with him could possibly be as boring as watching paint dry and he tends to be a little bit selfish in that area too. BUT you can definitely count on him to be faithful if he has committed to you.

she is strong and confident and likes to run the show! She's a tough nut to crack but once inside her shell, she's as sweet as caramel. Her fave position may be missionary, but she seeks excitement in new locations, so experiment with different venues to keep it interesting.

Capricorns are the most anal signs of the zodiac, so buttering them up will take a bit of effort. Believe it or not, their erotic area is the knees! Lightly stroke their legs, paying close attention to the knee region. Licking, kissing, and nibbling the area will get them squirming

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Saturday April 21, 2007 - 11:01pm



I understand that this was made up as a joke but...some of y'all are totally following these rules lol.

This pre-booty call agreement (hereinafter referred to as the "Agreement") is entered into on the _____day of __________, 2007, by_______________________, between ____________and______________.


1. No sleeping over - unless it is very good and we need to repeat it in the morning.

2. No meeting in public except for dinner or drinks before the events of the evening.

3. No calls before 9 PM - we don't have shit to talk about.

4. None of that "lovemaking" shit - only sex allowed.

5. No emotional discussions (i.e. Where are we heading with this? Do you love me?) The
answer is no, so don't ask.

6. No plans made in advance - that is why you are called the "backup," unless you are from
out-of-town, then it's only a one-time advanced arrangement.

7. All gifts accepted - money is always good.

8. No baby talk - however, dirty talk is encouraged.

9. No asking for comparisons with former lovers - it's really none of your damn business.

10. No calling each other "friends with privileges" we are not friends, just sex buddies.

11. Calling out the wrong name during sex is OK - don't be offended.

12. No extra clothing - I don't want your ass leaving anything behind when you leave.

13. No falling asleep right after sex - it's over, so get your ass up, get dressed and go the fuck home.

14. Don't be offended if I don't ask if you enjoyed it - I don't care.

15. You cannot borrow my car for any reason.

16. If anyone asks who you are, the standard response will be: "My roommate's

17. Doggie style is the preferred position - the reason is less eye contact the better.

19. No condoms, no fucking. Carry your ass home.

20. Bring your own drink - I am not your liquor store.

21. No phone use, please - don't want anyone calling back looking for your ass.


The aforementioned rules may only be altered by the holder of the agreement. If the other party attempts to change or alter any terms of this Agreement, it will automatically become null and void and you will then be removed from the BOOTY CALL LIST and deleted from phone memory and email list. In other words, you will be BLOCKED from all communications until your silly ass understands the rules.

Participating Party

Date: ________________

Participating Party

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In this day and age isn't this what relationships between the opposite sexes has become? I find myself more and more sucker punching a guy with the "If you're looking for sex miss me with that" Deal breaker before he can even get it out of his mouth. I don't want, need, or like casual sex; it makes my skin crawl and my emotions protest. I would rather fly solo then engage in a bedroom romp with some dude I haven't known longer than my current sneaker. It's ridiculous how love has gotten lost in translation and sex has become the ultimate filler for all things remotely relationship like. I envy the people who have been able to wade through all of the broken and trifling individuals in this society to truly find someone who compliments them and who wants nothing but the best for that person in essence a real relationship with another individual that wants you in total not just your sex organs. I am so tired of interviewing frogs in the effort and hope of finding someone who will get me and no I don't believe I need to sleep with every individual that shows me some interest my self esteem is just not that low. Sigh, those who have managed to find a love that shelters their heart I envy you. It is a rare bird true love it's elusive and skittish, it can only be coaxed into the hand with finesse and tenderness not with the crass coochie-cooing of random sex acts that leave one broken, misused, and damaged. Sigh we have a generation of people who are living artificially existing on a diet of lies and polluted perceptions of how life and love should be. My inner-self cries for children who will be brought up to think that love is a dirty word and sex is the replaced it. Love is not the enemy it is the mistreatment of it that is the enemy yes it is a complete and total emotion that can take you as high as heaven or as low as hell but its an emotion that is worth seeking, having, and keeping.

Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it .. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.
~ by The Holy Bible, New International Version Ephesians 5:25-33 ~

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Saturday April 21, 2007 - 11:58pm

1 CORINTHIANS 13 (New International Reader's Version)


1 Suppose I speak in the languages of human beings and of angels. If I don't have love, I am only a loud gong or a noisy cymbal. 2 Suppose I have the gift of prophecy. Suppose I can understand all the secret things of God and know everything about him. And suppose I have enough faith to move mountains. If I don't have love, I am nothing at all. 3 Suppose I give everything I have to poor people. And suppose I give my body to be burned. If I don't have love, I get nothing at all.

4 Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not want what belongs to others. It does not brag. It is not proud. 5 It is not rude. It does not look out for its own interests. It does not easily become angry. It does not keep track of other people's wrongs.

6 Love is not happy with evil. But it is full of joy when the truth is spoken. 7 It always protects. It always trusts. It always hopes. It never gives up.

8 Love never fails. But prophecy will pass away. Speaking in languages that had not been known before will end. And knowledge will pass away.

9 What we know now is not complete. What we prophesy now is not perfect. 10 But when what is perfect comes, the things that are not perfect will pass away.

11 When I was a child, I talked like a child. I thought like a child. I had the understanding of a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.

12 Now we see only a dim likeness of things. It is as if we were seeing them in a mirror. But someday we will see clearly. We will see face to face. What I know now is not complete. But someday I will know completely, just as God knows me completely.

13 The three most important things to have are faith, hope and love. But the greatest of them is love. Read more...



Since My blog on yahoo 360 is going to be deleted as they are making the new profiles top 1 priority I have decided that I am going to repost the best of my 360 blogs over here so yep here goes.

Obviously this is my favorite video I stay posting it, lol.

You're a 90's kid if:

You can finish this [ice ice _ _ _ _ ]

You remember watching Doug, Ren & Stimpy, Pinky and the Brain, Bobby's World, Felix the cat, The Tick...

AAAAAAAH Real Monsters!

You've ever ended a sentence with the word "PSYCHE!"

You just cant resist finishing this . . . "Iiiiiiin west philidelphia born and raised . . ."

You remember TGIF, Step by Step, Family Matters, Dinosaurs, and Boy Meets World.

You remember when it was actually worth getting up early
on a Saturday to watch cartoons.

You got super excited when it was Oregon Trail day in computer class at school.

You remember reading "Goosebumps"

You took plastic cartoon lunch boxes to school.

You still get the urge to say "NOT" after (almost) every sentence . . . not

If you remember seeing hot tub bubbles make bubbly sounds before every music video on VH1.

when everyhting was settled by rock paper scissors..or bubble gum bubble gum in a dish...eeny meeny miney mo...and even better daddy had a donkey inky binky bonky.

You used to listen to the radio all day long just to record your FAVORITE song of ALL time.

"Where in the World is Carmen San Diego?" was both a game and a TV game show.

Captain Planet. He's a Hero.

You knew that Kimberly, the pink ranger, and Tommy, the green ranger, were meant to be together.

You remember when Super Nintendos and Sega Genesis became popular.

You always wanted to send in a tape to America's Funniest Home Videos . . . but never taped anything funny.

You remember watching Home Alone 1, 2 , and 3 . . . and tried to pull the pranks on "intruders"

You remember watching The Magic School Bus, Wishbone, and Reading Rainbow on PBS.

You remember when Yo-Yos were cool.

You remember those Where's Waldo books.

You remember eating Warheads.

You remember watching the 1st Batman, Aladdin, Ninja Turtles, and 3 Ninjas movies.

You remember Ring Pops.

You remember drinking Surge, and Tang.

If you remember when every thing was "da BOMB!"

When they made the new lunchables so that you could make pizza AND tacos.

You remember boom boxes vs. cd players.

Making those little paper fortune cookie things, and then predicting your life with them.

You played and/or collected "Pogs"

You had at least one Tamagotchi, GigaPet, or Nano and brought it everywhere.

. . . Furbies.

Saved By The Bell was the coolest show ever!

You haven't always had a computer, and it was cool to have the internet.

And Windows 95 was the best.

You watched the original cartoons of Rugrats, Power Rangers, and Ninja Turtles.

Michael Jordan was a king.

YIKES pencils and erasers were the stuff!

All your school supplies were "Lisa Frank" brand.

You remember when the new Beanie Babies and Talking Elmo were always sold out.

You collected those Beanie Babies.

Mortal Kombat was awesome--the game and the movie


Gak was the coolest stuff invented.

Lambchop's song never ended.

The old dollar bills.

Silver dollars, which were cool to have.

You remember a time before the WB.

You collected all the Troll dolls

You had to read Weekly Reader's in class.

If you even know what an original walkman is.

You remember wanting to sit on the orange Nickelodeon couch.

You've gotten creeped out by "Are You Afraid of the Dark?"

You know the Macarena by heart.

"Talk to the hand" . . . enough said

You always said, "Then why don't you marry it!"

You remember trying to collect all 150 original pokemon cards but never could and if you did you thought you were all that!

You remember Highlight's magazine.

You know the significance of the number 23.

You went to McDonald's to play in the playplace (and it was outside).

You remember playing on merry go rounds at the playground.

Before the MySpace frenzy . . .

Before the Internet & text messaging . . .

Before Sidekicks & iPods . . .

Before MIKE JONES . . .

Before PlayStation2 or X-BOX . . .

Before Spongebob . . .

Back when you put off the 5 hours of homework you had every night.

When light up sneakers were cool.

When you rented VHS tapes, not DVDs.

When gas was $0.78 a gallon & Caller ID was a new thing.

When we recorded stuff on VCRs.

When we called the radio station to request songs to hear off of our walkmans.

When gameboy was a brick.

You did MASH to figure out your future

When you weren't cool unless you had a Starter jacket.

Way back.

Before we realized all this would eventually disappear.

Who would have thought you'd miss the 90's so much!!!!!

Post this in your bulletin if you remember these days . . . .

or if you smiled at one of these thing. . .

Post with the year you were born in...

And just because I'm fresh lol I will throw in a way back candy link where you can still order the candy from your favorite era how damn cool am I?????


Saturday, June 27, 2009



I've never gone into the specifics for what happened to me when I was working for one of the biggest medical facilities in southern California. I really had thought that my life had finally taken a turn for the better and that finally God had smiled on me and heard my prayers. Everything was just falling right in line I had even bought my first car off the lot by myself. I was coasting on the fumes of success when bam, I got thrown headfirst into the wall of dashed hopes and dreams.

I was in my third month and I was coming in to train in one of the more problematic departments I remember I got there and put my lunch that I had just purchased from the grocery store in the fridge in one of the common eating areas for the employees. Then I reported to my station when one of the secretaries tells me that HR had called down and I was to report upstairs immediately now if you know like I know anytime they tell you to report upstairs immediately before you can even log in it means trouble. So I get on the elevator and go upstairs and the door to HR is wide open and there is the main HR lady and then her flunky the main HR lady tells me to come in and sit down and then she ask me if I had already signed my union card, I tell her no and she breathed a huge sign of relief then she tells me she needs my ID card and my parking access card which were both hanging around my neck. Then she tells me that she is letting me go.

The whole time I am trying to come up with why I am getting fired when everyone that has trained me up until the present point said I was a quick learner and that I was efficient in my job and that they had heard good things about me. Furthermore I was never written up, never reprimanded, never given a warning, no evaluation of performance NOTHING! And to top it all off the supervisor over my department wasn't even stationed on the medical campus that I was working on. I had called her, paged her several times asking her when I was going to get my access code so that I could use my DAR and check patients in but I never got an answer, needless to say anything else from her. So as I'm sitting there with my face cracked and my mind scrambling grasping for answers I manage to stammer out well what did I do? The HR lady was exasperated at this point she was like well when we hired you we told you that we had the highest expectations of Customer Service and you failed to meet that, I was like okay is there a specific incident that you can give me, at this point she just wants me to leave she then says well I don't have to give you specifics you just failed to meet our standards. At this point I am still frozen and in disbelief, fired for no damned concrete reason I look from the HR lady to her flunky and her flunky is clearly the bouncer if I get out of hand or emotional.

They are both looking at me like bitch will you please leave, so I take my final check sign my exit paperwork and talk that long walk of shame out to the parking lot which I have to find a fucking guard to let me out of because they have taken my parking pass. As soon as I drive out the parking lot I call my mother and just burst into tears, her first response was well what did you do? I was like I don't know they didn't give me a specific incident or anything they just said I failed to meet their high expectation of customer service. I was in a panic because I had just gotten a car and of course a car note. I didn't have any other job prospects lined up because I didn't even know I was on my way out and I had left a job to take this dream position so I thought.

To compound matters I called around to see if I could apply at a different location but because I had been fired I was banned from ever applying at the company again! WTF, I don't even know why I was fired in the first place, but not to be able to ever apply to the same company again ever in life what the hell. I even tried to see my employee file to see if there was something in there about that would explain why I was fired, and I ordered it from the record department I set up an appointment to review my record, and I got there and waited for two hours just so the lady that was in possession of my record could tell me she possibly had misplaced it, or shredded it and she would have to send for it again, then she asked me why I wanted to see it. I told her I simply wanted closure I wanted to know why I was fired specifically, and why I could never again apply to the hospital again. She was trying to softball me and say well maybe it was just a case of over hire I was like yea I don't think so. She said she would order my employee file again and call me when she had it. She ended up calling me later that evening and telling me that because I was no longer employed with the hospital that I wasn't allowed to see the records because they were now company property and that I since I no longer worked for them then I wasn't allowed to see the records.

That was four years ago which if you think about it wasn't a long time ago I was almost there, to the top of that hill of adulthood when the rug was pulled out from under my feet and I still haven't managed to recover. I was almost there I could have tasted it, I was going to build a foundation I was going to finally be able to feel like a real adult. Sigh, this must be how people end up living on the streets it really just takes one day to be knocked on your ass and have your whole world turned upside down with no regard for your well being. But shrugs no one in this lifetime gives a shit, its a dog eat dog world. Read more...

Thursday, June 25, 2009



6/25/2009 is the day the world held their breath and watched collectively as we waited for the other shoe to drop. We whom have grown up under the influence of music will never forget the flawed man who gave us such perfect harmonies and beautiful words strung together by melodies that changed us forever. I will never forget influence that his music has held over me in fact the song PYT is one I have adopted as my own and even named my blog after. I didn't know the man personally but I have met his sister once a long time ago when I was a child...but that is neither here nor there. Let's let his spirit and his music live on and remember the mark his music left on the world. But please keep it in perspective we didn't know him so please don't try and go to the funeral and jump in his casket!

Anyway here are some of his videos/music that we are listened to:

Notice a young Michale Lorenzo dancing in the video.

I don't care how many people redo the song, there is only one and it goes hard! I still bump this every chance I get!


Wednesday, June 24, 2009



Disclaimer:This will be a rant/vent about my personal feelings and shit I'm going through if you don't want to read then don't, I give's not a fuck!

Many people think I am the devil, evil, angry, bitter, etc add your own word. It's amazing to me how when you voice how unhappy you are in your situation or when you call bullshit like you see it you automatically are branded as evil. My family does shit on the daily that just pisses me out and I'm supposed to just grin and bear the shit because why because their family and we're related by dna I don't think so. I don't think anyone see's me, all they see is how I act once shit starts going south and then that becomes my whole personality. I'm so tired of assholes I don't even have the patience to pretend to even want to deal with motherfuckers anymore. I have been worn down to the bone. I am weary and tired I am angry, bitter, and just fucking oh so tired of the way shit is going if I could bounce I would and I wouldn't tell anyone where I was I would just disappear without a fucking trace. I know I wouldn't be missed and that's fine with me.

Basically when you are the oldest your life becomes a pile of shit as soon as the other children come along you are turned into a fucking nurse maid and you become the babysitter, the maid, the cook, the help and you are quickly pushed aside and forgotten. But that's neither here nor there I'm just illustrating the kind of life one will be forced to lead as the eldest, it seems as if I don't have any room to make mistakes. Everyone else does but me I get the "well you did that to yourself, sucks for you" type attitude. There are no "well those are life lessons you learn" type comments. Everyone else is allowed to learn and grow from their mistakes me I'm told "well you just seem so unhappy, and happiness starts with self you should do something about that!" ONE MORE FUCKING TIME, I HAVE NO MONEY, NO JOB, NO JOB PROSPECTS, NO TRANSPORTATION, MY CREDIT SCORE IS FUCKED UP, AND I HAVE SOME COLLEGE CREDITS BUT NO DEGREE! AND everyone keeps telling me well if you're unhappy why don't you just move why don't you just change it IF I HAD THE RESOURCES I WOULD, IF IT WERE THAT EASY FOR ME I WOULD HAVE BEEN THOUGHT MY WAY OUT OF MY SITUATION, I always get the "well you're so intelligent I don't understand why you haven't figured something out for yourself yet" who the fuck wants to live like this, NO ONE, matter of fact this ain't even living some days I don't even want to get up, for what? What am I getting up for? Just to dirty up clothes that will have to be rewashed?

I would love to leave the state of California but where are people moving too with no job, no money, no job prospects, no where to stay???? Where they doing this at? Wouldn't it be extra foolish of me to leave the roof over my head to venture out into an unfamiliar state without even a job prospect lined up? With no where to sleep? With no fucking money in hand? Before I make that kind of move I want to make sure I don't continue to fuck up my life but yet and still people keep telling me the same bullshit. IF IT WAS THAT FUCKING EASY, IF I HAD A WAY TO DO IT I WOULD DO IT, OR I WOULD HAVE BEEN DONE IT ALREADY.

I don't have sympathy for others because simply they don't have sympathy nor empathy for me so fuck family, fuck everyone who always has an answer but no concrete solutions fuck the people telling me what I should do because they not offering a bed to sleep in nor a way to change my situation. Fuck everyone who keeps offering bullshit when its not fucking helpful. STOP doing that shit I don't want to hear anything unless it's about a job offer, unless its about a college program that I can enroll in that will change my life, I don't want to hear about it unless it will help me get to where I need to go to achieve a change in my life. UNLESS YOU COMING WITH SOLUTIONS SAVE ANYTHING ELSE. I DON'T NEED YOUR PITY, NOR YOUR SHOULDER TO CRY ON. POINT BLANK IF IT AIN'T ABOUT MONEY THEN I DON'T WANT TO FUCKING HEAR IT. MY MOOD IS DIRECTLY TIED TO MY PURSE STRINGS, AND I'M SO TIRED OF SANCTIMONIOUS ASSHOLES SO SAVE THAT SHIT AND PEDDLE IT TO SOMEONE ELSE WHO GIVES A GOOD MOTHER-FUCKING-GOOSE! IF IT AIN'T ABOUT HELPING ME MAKE A CHANGE FOR THE BETTER THEN I DON'T GIVE A FUCK I REALLY DON'T.

DON'T COME TELLING ME ABOUT CHANGING SHIT UNLESS YOU HELPING, OTHER WISE SAVE THAT SHIT FOR DR. PHIL. I'm so tired of defending myself and explaining myself over and over again, everyone wants to cast stones but no one persone not anyone I know is trying to help, NOT ONE GOTDAMNED PERSON but yet you all quick to say shit and point fingers. I don't get credit for a motherfucking thing what I do get is more what I haven't done right, what I could be doing right, what else I should be doing. The fucked up thing is even when I get a job interview, or have to go to a job or start some training the first thing out of someones mouth is "how you going to get there?" WHAT THE FUCK???? How backwards is that you telling me to get a job repeatedly but then when I try and line something up then I'm told well how you going to get there? Maybe it's just me but that is backwards as hell but of course my logic doesn't mesh with the rest of the worlds so that might actually make sense in assbackwards ville.

I actually went on an interview for a company and the manager was so nasty about the whole process she told everyone in the interview that she was looking for the cream of the crop, and if we weren't that then we could leave now. She actually paused and waited for us to walk out, then she said that she could be choosy about the kind of workers she wanted because there were millions looking for jobs and it was a hiring market right now, not a job seekers market because people are hurting in this economy they are scrambling in this economy to get whatever they can people who were making good money are settling for jobs where they making just barely enough to feed themselves just to be able to get by. So the average worker can't even get the dead end fucked up shit jobs anymore. THE REST OF THE WORLD IS IN A RECESSION I'M IN A DEPRESSION. It's so easy to dole out advice left and right when you on the system and you get a couple fucking checks coming in. It's easy to tell me about my situation when you can get a job or go to school because the fucking county will foot the bill for that shit. It's amazing how people tell me to be grateful for the little things when the little things are all that I got and then I don't even have many of them to be grateful for. What I truly got is a whole lot of motherfucking nothing to be happy about and a bunch of asshole giving me fucking advice.

I don't think people understand how much energy it takes for me not to lash out and start just spazzing and throwing shit and breaking shit up, I had to come and write this blog just to calm myself down and get this out of my system. No one knows shit about what I'm going through and the bottom line is at the end of the day no one gives a fuck so miss me with that bullshit, miss me with the pity and the "we wish we could help", because in all reality no one gives a fuck about me or what I'm going through you just don't want me to be so vocal about it that is the real deal right fucking there. As long as I'm making noise and saying shit it makes people uncomfortable you can't bury your head in the sand when someone keeps waving their funk under your nose. But don't expect my sympathy or empathy when you need it, don't except a shoulder to cry on when you need one, and don't expect me to rush to your aid when you need help. I give as good as I get and since I ain't getting shit I ain't giving shit either!

I am truly alone in this world which is fine with me I am truly an island of one.

(END RANT/VENT)



To be performed on the 9th day of the 9th month.
(But you can try it anytime - who knows?)

� 9 oz. sweet red wine
� 9 basil leaves
� 9 red rose petals
� 9 cloves
� 9 apple seeds
� 9 drops vanilla extract
� 9 drops strawberry juice
� 9 drops apple juice
� 1 ginseng root, cut into 9 equal pieces

By the light of 9 pink votive candles, put these nine ingrediants into a cauldron on the ninth hour of the ninth day of the ninth month of the year.
Stir the potion nine times with a wooden spoon, each time reciting the following:


Bring the mixture to a boil and then reduce the heat and let it simmer for nine minutes.

Remove the cauldron from the heat and allow the potion to cool off.
Blow nine times upon the potion, bless it in the names of nine love-goddesses, (see below) and then strain it through a cheesecloth into a clean container.
Cover and refrigerate it until you are ready to serve it to the man or woman from whom you desire love and affection.

(Do not allow anyone other than your beloved to look at,touch, or drink the love potion.)

The nine goddesses: Inanna, Ishtar, Astarte, Hathor, Nephthys, Aphrodite, Venus, Freya, Arianrhod.

I came across this potion and I thought it was interesting I haven't tested it nor do I know anything about it, but if you are the adventurous type feel free to try it out and come back and tell me the results. Read more...

Friday, June 12, 2009







Friday, June 05, 2009



Why must black folks shame themselves in the media? This story that has been all on the wire and even made it to the news and is now on youtube must be spoke upon. I got a couple of questions first who in the hell turned his ass in to the news? 2ndly why the fuck are these bitches still hopping on this niggas dick? If you in Knoxville Tennessee is he the only available penis in that whole little town I mean what is the problem? I really can not for the life of me understand why bitches still keep standing in line to be the 3rd through infinity numbered baby momma do these dudes have a penis that gold shoots out from the tip? What is wrong with y'all do you need to be loved that damn bad? Is it low self esteem? Is dude hitting the bottom out your vagina? Then you going down to the damn court and shit trying to get child support WHEN you already know dude can't support his kids or he ain't even got no job to begin with. Someone need to explain the shit to me please cause I don't get it for the life of me. If you stupid enough to lay down with a man who has more than one baby momma you need to be laughed at and ridiculed. Then its some of y'all out there who up and married a man with multiple baby mommas and the other baby mommas who didn't get chosen is mad as hell like they lost the prize smh.

I think when a man has multiple baby mommas they need to round the baby mommas up and put them bitches in counseling. If you not fit enough to make the decision to not have kids with a dude who has multiple baby mommas already I say you not fit enough to have the kids in the first place something has to be wrong with your mind. I don't understand why everyone walking around acting like they have to have a kid when really the know they shouldn't. Yes babies are blessings but some of y'all been blessed a little too much and now the county has to pay for them kids. Just straight up trifling and wrong dude is only 29 with 21 kids and 11 plus baby mommas and shit. All y'all involved need an ass whopping and the kids need to be put in a big ass orphanage cause y'all all fucked in the head far as I am concerned! Read more...

Tuesday, June 02, 2009



Twitter once again has hit upon some inspiration man I know y'all can't forget Tony! Toni! Tone! that group came with consistent hits ever since they bust on the scene with little Walter hailing from Oakland the group had several hits before what always happens to every single group. One person gets bigger than the whole group and then eventually they break up. But please walk down memory lane with me one more time as we listen/watch some of their greatest hits.

1st. Lets lay the foundation this is their first song and video Walter the video is hard to see but you get the point:

These dudes where on several soundtracks this one is from house party 2 ahhh good times when kid went to college and threw that pajama jam in the cafeteria:

If you were in high school like I was when this came out I know some of the hot ones was slow grinding to this song, lawd. How many of y'all were made off this song. Every time I hear this song I think about boyz in da hood that soundtrack was the lick. Nina long had just came on the scene, ice cube was still angry, and Morris Chestnut was just a poot butt not even a household name yet.

Another movie soundtrack they were on was higher learning, John singleton again. When he was dating Tyra Banks ha and she played a track star this time though Raphael Saadiq went dolo on the track.

You can never forget this song EVER I used to love me some Charlie Ray Wiggins(also known as Raphael Saadiq)before he got all artsy and started being "eccentric" and boning Joss Stone le-sigh: