I'm tired. I'm frustrated with my own life and frankly I'm just damned tired of being a black woman. I feel like if I was at least a white woman I would be engaged by now, I certainly would be able to pull a football/basketball player but I digress.
I used to live in Inglewood California yes home to what used to be called the great western forum until they built the staple center now the forum is a giant relic that just sits there struggling to still be apart of a city that is a some what quiet urban nest inside of a bigger urban nest. Back to my point I used to live in Inglewood and before we moved to the burbs I was privy to the type of shit that makes up the lives of inner city youth.
Gangs, jacking, death. Now anyone that has dwelt in an urban city knows that death is a constant companion death doesn't sleep. I have seen bodies laid out under sheets blowing in the breeze waiting for the corner to come collect it. I have walked on many a sidewalk washed in somebodies blood, I was even privy to a jacking on the back of a bus and let me not have worn the wrong color to school like say red a whole red outfit... could cause major conflict.
Since I have been out of high school it seems to have gotten worst I don't understand the need to be so bloodthirsty we don't need help killing ourselves we got that down to a fine art it's sad and it makes me tired and damned glad that today I don't have any kids. Self hatred plays out through the younger generations they don't see nothing wrong with taking the life of a peer because they don't see their self worth.
The best lie ever told is the one that is told so much it becomes fact. It is a fact that black is minority, it is a fact that we as humans are so undervalued that we don't value ourselves which allow us to do the most ugliest things within our own culture. Fact we are so undervalued that even the government which has had laws on the books separating the races valued one color over the other ingraining doubt about self which turned into a fact that got passed down as legacy, fact we were brought here from Africa and stripped of all of our cultural heritage family ties were severed in order to break apart any type of familial ties that had occurred and would occur. Fact this familial break down has now become a legacy a generational curse that is passed down through generations so much so that is now a reality! We as a people don't value ourselves, we as a people don't pass down what it is we need to combat the hatefulness and spitefulness of the majority rule.
Before you lay your head down tonight talk to your children, make it a nightly ritual reaffirm that they are somebody that they don't have to act like trash and hurt one another. Tell your children where they can from not just from watts, compton, the southside, or new orleans. Allow your child to see that there is a bigger picture and we helped make that picture even though our efforts are ignored, or stolen. Give your children something bigger than hip-hop, hanna montana, and disney, give them truth and a knowledge of self. Impart in them a love of their culture and heritage allow them to step outside of the cocoon of ugliness that is the legacy of this country. Allow them to have more than being common street thugs allow them more than untimely death allow them more than what Derrion Albert got.
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Monday, September 28, 2009
I'm tired. I'm frustrated with my own life and frankly I'm just damned tired of being a black woman. I feel like if I was at least a white woman I would be engaged by now, I certainly would be able to pull a football/basketball player but I digress.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
The above movie is about the very subject I am speaking on...to me it was a heartbreaking and disturbing movie to say the least watch it at your own risk.
Do you know where your daughter, cousin, niece, sister, child is right this moment? Right now someones little girl or teenage daughter is being forced, coerced, rapped, or seduced into having sex with someone twice her age. She is being taken advantage of and her innocence is being stolen and her body is being violated. She is being put into a position (no pun intended) that she shouldn't have to be in because some sick ass older man with fucked up brain chemistry is willingly and sadistically taking the very best of her at this moment because he thinks it is his right to do so. Some where innocence is being devoured and my heart breaks for these not yet fully grown nor fully developed young girls/teenagers that are being put in a position they shouldn't be put in. Just because someone has an appetite for their youth its disgusting and sad.
Pedophiles... as of late they have been catching pedophiles but its taking them years to catch these dudes. Shit is sad and sick what's more disturbing is the more notoriety and money these pedophiles have then it's like well they are just disturbed geniuses who need help not jail.
In a male dominated society children and women are eaten alive and their spirits and bones are spat out by the masses. Case in point both Polanski and Robert Kelly have committed crimes with little girls teenagers at best but not grown ass women. But every time anyone says anything about the girls that were involved with these men they always say: "those little girls were consenting, they knew what they were doing and that the girls wanted it, that they were working their bodies like grown ass women, and Polanski has Maintained the girl was sexually experienced and had consented!
Excuse me if I'm wrong but the last time I checked even if a teenager was "experienced" she is still a teenager the only time teenage girls get turned it is at the hands of men that take her developing body and lust after it and seduce this young girl into thinking she a woman because her ass and titties have yet to match up with her IQ therefore she is gullible and misguided. Most often she is lacking a daddy figure in her life so any man showing her some attention and affection will quickly gain her trust and he can have her doing any and everything. Especially if the dude is throwing a little money at her, buying her things, taking her places showing just a little bit of interest in her then yes that teenage girl will do anything in her power to please that boy/older man.
Teen age girls don't just get up in the morning and go hmmm who shall I fuck today if she does then some where along the line she has been failed by the adults in her life. Show me any young wild hot teenage girl and I will show you a lack of parental guidance, a lack of structure, possibly even a history of neglect and abuse in the girls life. Bottom line stop blaming teenage girls for the lack of judgment and mental stability of grown ass men. Stop blaming the victim even if these girls are way to grown for their ages, know way to much about sex then they should, it used to take a village to raise a child but modern day societies have burned down those villages now a days parents don't want help they think people are intruding in their business if they offer help or advise. I think its sad when you see young girls sexing away their youth, wearing out their vagina walls before they even know how to properly wash their asses.
there is nothing cute about a too grown oversexed teenage girl its tragic and far to often it happens in neighborhoods across the world. The value of a young girls innocence has long been sold to the highest bidder and the world looks on in passive aggressive fashion as her silent tears are ignored and her soul is replaced with darkness and she is left to fend for herself in the divide between not grown and too grown...
Roman Polanski Arrested for sex with 13yr old in the 1970's:
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Friday, September 25, 2009
Hey guys let me talk to you for a minute about this very important topic that should be addressed. I have let it slide far to long because way too many of y'all are doing it and I know some BASIC BITCH's have convinced y'all that the shit is cute but I am here to tell you this shit needs to stop or it just needs to stop happening to me that's for damn sure.
STOP SENDING YOUR MOTHAFUCKING PENIS THROUGH THE NET AND THROUGH PICTURE MAIL ON CELLPHONES. First and foremost unless your penis is immaculate and just beautiful like a work of art penis is not that impressive looking in general. Now some chicks get off on looking at different penises but some don't I happen to not be one of those chicks that need to be sent penis through any types of electronic means yet and still I always get the penis pictures. There is a time and a place to disclose your penis and for goodness sakes ask first it's only polite.
You would think that since men's fragile egos are tied directly to their penis they wouldn't be so eager to give anyone an opening to attack it. But some of y'all are slow mentally obviously since you sending penis through electronic means and you proud of your man sausages like you did something special. Like you want extra life credit for growing your penis or something. So be forewarned that if you send your penis to me electronically and expect me to be excited, aroused, or overjoyed then you will most likely be disappointed. I will more than likely say something unkind about your penis and possibly cause your self esteem to crumble and give you doubts that you could even work the middle and that up until you sent your penis electronically to me you were simply getting pity coochie. I will do my best to make you feel under endowed as well but most of y'all don't need my help in that department especially when you working with less than a size 8. If your penis is less than impressive in length I will not lie to you nor spare your feelings.
So men this is your forewarning before you send your penis through electronic means make sure its impressive and something to really see, also please ask and inform before you just send. Some women don't like surprises I for one am one of those women who would rather have the option to say no versus just being underwhelmed by unimpressive man meat. So spread the word near and far men stop sending out your penis without being invited to do so, I know that sending penis electronically is the new IN but trust me like tight skinny jeans its not for everybody! Read more...
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Shug: More than anything God love admiration.
Celie: You saying God is vain?
Shug: No, not vain, just wanting to share a good thing. I think it pisses God off when you walk by the colour purple in a field and don't notice it.
Celie: You saying it just wanna be loved like it say in the bible?
Shug: Yeah, Celie. Everything wanna be loved. Us sing and dance, and holla just wanting to be loved. Look at them trees. Notice how the trees do everything people do to get attention... except walk?
If you're a black woman born anytime after the 80's then you have the color purple memorized verbatim and you can reenact scenes with your female friends and family members you might even often use a direct quote from the movie to express yourself time and time again or maybe that is just my reality...anyway I decided that I wanted to post the two songs from the color purple that make my heart sing.
This is the first song:
The 2nd song is the first church scene ever made that captured the true essence of what a black shotgun church is really like and the scene always ALWAYS makes me pause and get that well-up want to cry feeling and sometimes I even do cry involuntarily if you can't feel this scene I'm sorry to tell you, you just might be dead. If I can still be moved by gospel music and church scenes I know I ain't too far gone from his presence but that's a whole different post. Get ready to get your shout, praise, cry on my absolute best loved scene from the color purple "God is tryna tell you something".
Sunday, September 20, 2009
I want start out by saying I appreciate the people that come here and read what I write especially those that have been here from the very beginning. I didn't even know what blogs were really I just knew that I loved to write and it seemed like a cool idea to have an electronic journal some where, where you could vent and voice your opinion about things. Since I always seem to have an opinion about something this seemed like the perfect thing for me. Then I found out people actually make money off their blogs I was like wow maybe I could do that as well.
But I don't think people realize how hard it is to open yourself up in this world and put yourself out there. Sometimes I am having a hard day or just going through something(s) so I write it out and I get it out of my system once I do that I can move on or put it in better perspective. Its just a SNAPSHOT of my life not the whole big picture. I give you snapshots and some people think its a whole book. They taking pages from this book thinking they know me and running with it. These very people have never even bothered to hold a conversation with me or ask me about my feelings they just read something and run with it and then they think they know me and my whole situation which couldn't be farther from the truth. I have relatives who have never even sat down and just really talked with me in-depth but I bet they think they know me pretty well.
Yes I know I take a risk writing things down and having them judged but walking down the street, wearing my hair a certain way, wearing certain clothes, being around certain people, just being a black woman I am judged everyday not by the content of my character but by my very appearance. You don't have to know me to judge me and many people do that. It is so easy to read something and form an opinion when you don't know the whole story just a snapshot. But I like writing I like having this blog and if no one read it I would still write it. I like having a small intimate group of readers.
I appreciate when people leave comments I really do but the people who are anonymous and don't sign their comments and just leave shitty things in the comment sections are cowards. People who use anonymity to bash other people are weak minded people if you're going to be an asshole leave your name and a way to get back in contact with you so that a person may reply in kind. Don't just blog hit and run that's cowardly you big and bold enough to comment be big and bold enough to get a response. I do my best to respond to all comments unless its just a general one so if you leave a comment know that I reply to them each and every time.
Before anyone reads into this and thinks I'm speaking specifically at them I am not. I have wanted to say this for a long time and never have gotten around to it this was something that was weighing on my mind and had to be written out. Read more...
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Don't you live being a female sometimes? Cute clothes, sexy heels, haute handbags almost, ALMOST makes up for the other stuff we go through...well kinda sorta lol. BTW this is what I'm wearing to the Maxwell concert, yay me. Read more...
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
I'm sure if you are living on planet earth you have heard about the Kanye debacle, if not good for you stay away from celeb-whore-t's they are bad people but I posted the aforementioned video anyway for a point of reference. Ever since Kanye lost his mom he has been on this emotional unbalanced roller coaster and he has just keeps lashing out. I know that it is difficult to lose a parent especially when that parent is extra close to you but drinking, having sex, working nonstop, and saying and doing fucked up things will not bring him closure, give him peace nor bring his beloved mother back.
Kanye is a very flawed man and if he keeps going the way he is going he is either going to die young, or go out Michale Jackson style. There is no one in these celeb-whore-t's lives that say's hey pull it together fucktard you're spinning out of control. Because of the money and fame these people get to do and act however they want, they commit crimes they get slapped on the wrist. They do classless and crass things the whole world clutches its pearls and still embraces these buffoons and clowns shit is awful. I wish I had enough money to be an asshole and treat people like shit all the time and get away with it
oh wait don't I already do that?
I used to be a Kanye supporter but now I think I will have to add him to my list of people that I just give no attention to if we stop rewarding these attention whores with attention then they will have no choice but to go away. Being famous is like any other drug and I for one am so tired of these assholes getting high on their own hype shit needs to stop. Read more...
Friday, September 11, 2009
I'm black, single, no kids, female, and 31...
I may never get married and the realest shit is I have never been in love!
I have said I love you to many a "boyfriend" because I thought I was supposed too and I thought I meant it at the time but looking back after the fact after all the dust has settled I didn't love any of those dudes.
I was going through the motions...I have never really let anyone in.
I have a brick wall guarded by an electronic fence around my heart with vicious guard dogs standing guard. I think my immunity to bullshit has inoculated me from even wanting to get with or pursue anything with these guys. It all sounds the same to me, once a dude finds out your celibate then they start talking shit about how they have the cure for what ails me or they make many offers to fuck the lining out my vagina and tear down my walls but that's all they're coming with. They don't think past their dicks.
If I wanted to have meaningless sex then I would be fucking why don't men get that? Besides the truth is sex is overrated, wack, and I can do better by myself. For those women who have had the fortune of having great sex in their life times they are the exception to the rule. Most men couldn't hit the spot with detailed directions and a step by step map. The truth is most men don't give a shit about making a woman feel good they are going to nut regardless.
I look at these movies and I think this is all fiction not fact no one believes in love anymore, no one stays married until death anymore, no one is this devoted in their unselfishness. Most people are just trying to get over.
For every electronic means of communication we have lost the art of real communication, we have lost the art of listening, and we have lost the art of fostering loving relationships. There was a time when family was important, there was a time when being loved and in love was important now its on the back burner but that new job, that new status symbol and that vacation in the Southampton's is the mark of happiness.
Society has turned in its dance card with love.
I feel like I was born in the wrong era I feel so old school in a time when I don't understand the interactions between men and women. Everything is instant that's why its unforefilling you can't make a roast instantly it takes time for the meat to cook and marinate, no one has the patience's for love anymore that's why when the infatuation stage wears off its on to the next person.
I am so jaded that nothing surprises me anymore, one of my twitter bff's said to me you need something good to happen to you and I totally agree with her but I'm not one of those good things happens to type people. I'm quite the opposite I suppose.
It kind of surprises me now when people get married...especially black people. I guess that's why I love weddings its because I've been to a total of two in my entire lifetime. So the awe and the beauty is still intact.
Think of this post as more of a one sided conversation feel free to talk back in the comments.
Side note I was really thinking about becoming a lesbian this week, that's how tough my nerves were worked by the opposite sex. I even was on the brink of crossing the color line...yep I know but the interesting thing is a man is still a man which means an asshole is still an asshole and he turned out to be fraudulent like all the rest. He didn't even get out the gate fell off in just two days.
I think the getting to know you and seeing if that person is what you want needs to go down in one conversation stop having more than one conversation that builds hope you should know by now what the hell you're looking for and that should come across in one conversation. Put a questionnaire together and stick to that ask the important shit up front then fill in the filler stuff in other conversations. But the basics the things you're looking for, the things you need, and your expectations need to go down in one conversation!
But that only works when two people know their own mind and they know what they want and what they are seeking! It doesn't work when one person is saying all the right things just to get some ass...
Dating is ridiculous...the getting to know you phase is redundant, love is obsolete, and I am internally frustrated with the whole situation...
Someone once said that we were broken rocks or stones and we had a second half to our person but they were some where else in the world and it was our job to find that second half...but since women out number men...
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Thursday, September 03, 2009
Update Maia is getting help let's hope she sticks with it and get's the help she needs: READ THE UPDATE HERE
Okay so apparently people are saddened and shocked over the appearance of Maia Campbell in the above latest video. If you don't know who she is, she is the girl that played Tiffany in the LL cool J show In The House. She is also the daughter of the late author BeBe Moore Campbell. She was also the main character in the Tyrese video Lately she also had other bit roles here and there but none so prominent as the show In The House,
The video that had surfaced to let everyone know that Maia was indeed either starting to loose her mind or she was already gone sent shock waves through the urban community in 2007:
Maia Campbell - The funniest videos clips are here
Maia had been diagnosed with bipolarity her late mother spoke on it and even wrote numerous books about mental illness before she herself died of brain cancer at the age of 56. Apparently Maia refuses to take her meds and she has turned to a life of petty crimes, stealing, selling her body so that she can get drugs. Some people have gone even so far as to say that she has schizophrenia but I don't know where they got that information from. I don't know the woman personally just watching her on different programs and videos and even reading a lot of her late mothers writings I guess I feel like she is one of the west coast own so in a 7 degrees of separation kind of sense of community I feel like I do know her.
The truth is though a lot of the people in the entertainment business is on something, they all use something to escape the pressure cooker of being under a microscope 24/7, they never get to turn the spotlight off they have vices some more deadlier than others. I'm a firm believer in you can't force a grown person to do anything if they don't want to do it. If she doesn't want to get help for herself and rather be out on the streets what can you do short of snatching her up and locking her down some where. I feel bad for her children and husband who have to go through this and watch from afar as Maia falls apart. Addiction is something that is hard to cope with especially when a loved one is suffering in a self destructive kind of way. I hope that where ever her kids are they are shielded from the ugliness that is their mother right now, and I honestly hope that she does get help.
The stories complied about her:
2007 black voices
Article by Paul Mooney on Maia
Latest Article On Maia
I was searching through my blogs really trying to see if I had written about a particular incident in my tragic single life history A.K.A. tragic dating in southern California topics and I can't believe that I didn't mention this particular incident with this particular individual before.
Now this particular dude let's call him Southern Booty Bandit, SBB for short I bumped into him on a ning site. He seemed perfectly charming gave me a little background about himself he was alright meaning not completely tragic looking (meaning with a hat low on his head he was cute or if he was wearing some shades that covered much of his face he was cute) but his looks didn't really blow my skirt up but I shoot the breeze with folks just to get an idea of what people are thinking in the world so we exchanged yahoo messenger names and the likes and we began to talk on a semi regular basis.
He said he was a misplaced Katrina transplant, he said he had did time in jail for a weapons charge he said he did about 7 years, then he said he went to college and got a degree in criminal justice. Now read that whole sentence real slow if your mind is like wait...he got a record but he went into the field of criminal justice which was basically a waste of time and energy. Anyone with higher cognitive thinking skills knows that if you have a record you can't go work for the police or anything government related come on now!
Then he shared that he was diabetic, while I personally have nothing against diabetics my great-grandmother was diabetic but as far as procreating wise which he wanted to do some day I can't willingly go there plus he smoked cigs and weed on occasion. Anyway so he often said he was a paper chaser in his new orleanin drawl which I guess was supposed to impress me. He wanted me to be on his team as far as trying to spark up a relationship and I told him that the kid here didn't do LDR's I simply refuse to do them its like trying to walk a two legged dog, pointless tragic and futile. He kept insisting that it would be alright and of course I shined him on. Plus he had certain requirements like he liked his women to wear hoe clothes. Back out breast out short as hell, the shit you wear to the club he wanted a woman to wear every day. He also liked heels and thongs and g-strings the typical male shit plus he wanted some cyber love through a webcam when he was in a relationship long distance wise.
Now if you can't guess anything else about me you know I don't do hoe shit in real life on full blast, nor would I ever do anything that would ever have me in a position that would compromise me as a person. I would never give anyone the power to willingly blackmail or exploit me because I was dumb enough to send explicite pictures or do hoe type shit on a webcam I got way more sense then that and besides I'm not in the sex industry.
He also said he was celibate and if he just wanted some ass then he would go down to Atlanta because bitches (his word not mines) would do anything freaky down there. The more we talked the more his "otherness" started to show around this same time he also told me he liked women to pee on his dick (blink and insert a long pause). It all started coming to a head when the owner of the ning site I had originally met him on spilled the real T on homeboy.
Apparently he had been trying to get with her at an earlier time and she had talked to him and gotten to know him and apparently they got along so well he let his hair down with her fully. These are the things she told me that he told her; he told her that he was passive in bed and he liked being dominated, he wanted to dress up as a woman and be fucked with a strap-on. He also told her he liked looking at dicks of other men and comparing them to his little pecker. So quite naturally I asked homeboy about it he got heated saying she was lying on him because he promised to send her two hundred dollars but he never did from then on I looked at dude in a whole different light.
We still talked to each other on a semi regular basis at this point he was still working in a kitchen and delivering pizzas on his days off. He would usually pop up on my messenger around Sunday night while we still chopped it up every now and again I wasn't really stunting dude I was truthfully interested in someone else that didn't pan out but that's a whole different post literally.
So he keeps asking me if he can visit and if I am going to be his girl and me I always would say I don't know you well enough for that type of commitment and usually change the subject or he would wander off of messenger so one day I get this link in my offline messages and its from him so I click the link and its this young tenderoni who's a sexy little chocolate drop of a cutie he couldn't have been more than 19 and this little cutie proceeds to do a strip tease until he was naked completely with his impressive manhood erect and at attention so I'm thinking WTF, Red flags like a mothafucka.
SBB try's to back peddle and send out a group message saying someone else had used his computer and had pasted that link and sent it out to everyone on his messenger list. Now Pause right there, dude lives alone for 1, 2 why would someone take a link and paste it to everyone on his messenger list especially of a young dude stripping? It just sounded way to suspect to me and it just didn't add up. I mean anything could be possible but I didn't call foul I just gave him more rope to hang himself with.
Finally me and dude came to a crossroads and he started spilling his guts saying he was freaky that he did like to look at dicks but only so him and whomever he would be in a relationship with could talk about them and tell him all the things she wanted the dicks and compare and contrast the different dicks to his this is the type of shit that turned him on...PAUSE, then he went on to say that he had also been married before to his childhood sweetheart whom he used to beat the fuck out of. Now he had failed to mention that part insisting that he had told me that before, and every time he talked about his going to jail for the gun charges the years served always changed. I'm not one for a bunch of aggravation so after all this starts spilling out dude still had the nerve to ask if he could come visit me I was like naw dude hell naw I'm great on anything you trying to do.
Then he started trying to get flip talking about was I intimidated because my money wasn't right and all this other hoopla about money basically I blocked his ass and hadn't thought about him since until dude showed up in a blackplanet chatroom. I was like oh hell naw this fool isn't on bp I'm seeing things so I checked his page out and indeed it was him. HE even had the nerve to try and have a private chat with me I was like oh fuck no I immediately blocked his ass and just had to shake my head woe to the woman that gets fooled by his crazy ass. Dude ain't even sexy though not even a little bit you gotta be hard up and on hard times to want to even deal with dude on that level. Dude even had the nerve to send me pictures of his little penis that never could when we were cordial he swore up and down he was an 8 he looked more like a 6. The audacity of some folks is too huge to comprehend so I don't even attempt to try. I wish I had of kept his little bitty penis just to add it to this post but I didn't. Since I don't have any visuals of him I'm going to go with a video which I fairly think represents him in his entirety!
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Tuesday, September 01, 2009
Sometimes I need a reminders of the things I already know its like pulling out a familiar check list and going over it every once and awhile to make sure your still on course and in line with the things on that list. As we get older some of the things on the list become more important than others so essentially it is a good thing to pull the list out and check it over every once and again.
- When someone shows you who they are believe them! This is such an important cardinal rule how many times have we overlooked something we have seen in a person's character that was a huge warning sign but we kept on dealing with the person because we felt like the good out weighed the bad? You can not change anyone but yourself and you would be a fool to think or try and do otherwise.
- Listen to what men say. How often have we ignored the little things that men have said, because we were focused on what WE wanted. Then when the end results don't turn out as we wanted them too we feel lied to and deceived? LISTEN to what a man says he is telling you all that you will ever need to know, even if his actions directly contradict what he is saying.
- When a man is already in a " domestic situation" whether it be marriage, or shacking up. He will not leave his woman to be with you even if you break him off some cookie. Of course he will sell you any pipe dream you want to hear while he is beating and skeeting you but after all that is over and his dick is out of you he will forget everything he said. NOW on the off chance that this man does leave his "situation" for you and you were the direct cause of his break-up then prepare to be kicked in the ass by universal law which is a fundamental cardinal rule as well...What comes around goes around! If he left her for you what makes you so special that he won't leave you?
- Sex doesn't keep a man! I'll write that one again sex doesn't keep a man if it did then there would be more couples still together less divorces and more two parent households!
- Men deal in loopholes, meaning they will phrase things to their benefit in order to get what they want be careful of word traps.
- Homegirl/wifey/boo is another way to give you a false sense of ownership to something you don't officially have again word trap. If you don't have an official capacity in a dudes life you are a filler, basically a chick who that has potential to fill an opening when he gets one in his life but in the meantime he will keep you around until said position becomes open or until he can talk you into fucking him whichever comes first.
- Men are essentially unstable creatures, dramatic, possessive and not in touch with their feelings. Much of what they say is nonsense listen enough to get the information that you need to glean from them what they are trying to get from you once you get that then act accordingly. For example, My girl <<<
>>>(the nonsense to ignore) and me aren't getting along, but that's neither here nor there I still want to give you pleasure I can make you feel really good.
- Never bother to invest emotionally in someone who can't do the same for you. Turn the emotional spigot off! I don't buy into that "I fell helplessly in love with him and now I can't let him go" crap. If you guard your heart which one is supposed to do then there is no way someone can get under your skin, and into your psyche unless you let them in.
- MAKE Them work for it! Stop just giving away all your power, emotional, sexual, and mental. IF you hand it up on a silver platter than what does he have to work for?
- Anything worth having is worth working for. If it's too easy its suspect, that just goes without saying across the board.
- Know your worth that way you won't fall for nor accept just any old bullshit. Value you first and everyone else 2nd.
- Yes cheating is still wrong even though the world and everyone in it will try and convince you its not, I don't care who does the cheating wrong is wrong. Nothing justifies cheating even though people will always rationalize it