I know that people like to use grey areas because it makes life easier. If you can live in a grey area you don't have to make definitive decisions and you can usually be greedy with the life decisions you are making. For example: if you are legally separated and you think its okay to tell people you are single and that you are completely free to date not only are you a moron but you have unfinished business as well and to add insult to injury you are needlessly complicating someone else's life because you haven't made the decision to get a divorce or you aren't going to divorce but just be separated indefinitely. Why bring your unfinished business into someones uncomplicated life like that? That's not okay not by a long shot a legal separation does not mean finished it is a break, when you are on break at your job you don't get to clock out and leave because your work is not finished yet. It's the same thing with legal separation you're just taking a break you haven't finished the job yet, you're still on the clock no matter how long the break is until you resign or quit that job/marriage you are still under the law a spouse/ an employee. Now it may be all good to the person who's separated and they may like living in that grey area but stop trying to date or go out with someone who is really unattached and really single and stop trying to convince someone with sense that the definition of separated really means single. I don't know what law you think you living under but in America separated is still married all day everyday and that's just the way it is and the way its going to stay it has the potential to cause confusion and issues later on, plus its messy. How dare you think its okay for you to start something fresh with someone else when you still haven't settled business at home stop doing that shit. I know that everyone you go out with is not going to be a match but dating for recreation is just not my thing but kudos to those of you that enjoy doing it.
