I know I talked about this before but it blows my mind everyday how people procreate without thought or they have the wrong motives for having children. It's hard being a single parent and its not easy in a two parent household but at least you have help and it's a co-effort, anyone that has ever been around kids and that has some sense knows that. It's bizarre how the more unstable a person is mentally, emotionally, financially, the more children they seem to have. Its like having a weapon in the hands of criminals, all these men and women who are walking around with loaded guns (ie reproductive parts) cocked and ready to aim and just pushing out kids left and right with no pause, or even any shame no planning no forethought it's wrong.
Meanwhile those of us who are single with no dependents get fucked in taxes and no help what so ever from the government, can I get a she got her mind right and is not out milking the system type of tax break, or how about she anti-baby momma so give her a huge tax break and some money to go back to school to finish her degree type scholarship! I don't care how you phrase it but can the government just make it happen? Women getting pregnant and getting all kinds of benefits maybe I should look into renting my womb out cause It seems like the more I do right, the more I try and do right the more fucked and left behind I get. It's real hard to see doing right pay off when everyone else in the world is doing way wrong and getting theirs by whatever means necessary and since its getting real funky money wise in these streets folks are going to get even more ugly in nature, scandalous in their doings. Less money equals more crime, angrier people, desperate people, and the true nature of man is revealed but I digress. Now that money is real shady and people are loosing their minds left and right what are you prepared to do to stay afloat? Now is the time to think outside the box...maybe you too will be in the news giving birth to babies, or making a sex tape and getting a reality show, or maybe you might turn to selling ass, and drugs, or stealing...will you still try and do right even when your money has all left? What will be your breaking point?
A SAD TESTAMENT TO HUMAN NATURE AND OUR TROUBLED FINANCIAL TIMES:
You should have quit while you were ahead did you really need MORE damn kids!
This is sad another family involved in a MURDER SUICIDE because of financial difficulties
It's funny how when a black man kills himself and family he is therefore demonized but if someone else does it then it's a tragedy SADNESS Btw the people at Kaiser are heartless employers and its no stretch of imagination that the supervisor probably did tell the man he should just put a bullet in his brain.
I'm sure I might have mentioned this before but if I didn't I'm mentioning it again.I had a co-worker who met a man on the internet, and withing a month she had moved in with him within three months she was engaged and within a month of that she was married, and she acquired a job within the state that would help her erase the mans debt and prepare for them to get a house together and with that they started their life as man and wife. I will leave you to assess what her cultural and racial make up is. I believe that you will already know just based on the situation that was typed above. I type this to illustrate the simple fact that there is a vast cultural difference in the way love, commitment, and relationships are approached by different cultures.
A reader made the statement that many African-Americans don't live "European Style" meaning a two parent household, raising their kids, loving one another, supporting one another, and working for the common good of the household together. If you have been reading my blog for awhile then you already know how I feel about kids born out of marriage in the African-American community and the lack of marriage and love between black men and women period. You already know how I feel about black communities being eroded everyday, and the values that we should have as a people are lacking. It's like the farther we come socially the farther we go back emotionally. There are still things ingrained in our psyches in our very nature that have not been addressed. If you never acknowledge something how can you fix it? Many of the issues stem from generations of mental, emotional, degradation and oppression. It makes me ache inside when many in our culture would prefer to jump ship instead of stick it out and work it out.
I look at Sean Combs and I think all that money that you spend in child support you could be using to strengthen one household. You could be someones father full time not just part time showing a whole generation how it could be done, but no you rather procreate without responsibility because you have the money to do so. That is an ugly selfish way of living life. But he is not alone in his pursuits many men of color with wealth who have lost cultural identity or who pimp their cultural identity choose to procreate outside of their races, they choose to go through women because they can, they choose to treat those that have supported them as 3rd best and its tiresome and heartbreaking. It's like once you get enough money in your bank account to compensate for the melanin in your skin then you happily turn in your black card and skip to the other side with no looking back. I know that many especially in the black community want to sing and holds hands and be embraced and embrace the world/society at large and think that finally we are excepted have been absorbed into mainstream society and that we have overnight been giving equal footing and the same privileges as Caucasians have had since they landed on Plymouth rock, but again I see to you my brothers and sisters please wake up, we have much to work on within ourselves and communities before we are truly at that promised land. One man can not reverse nor roll back centuries of wrongs and oppressions, and damaged psyches.
Now don't get me wrong I know that when it comes to sex men prefer new yoni over old, I have even heard very ignorant and bias black men argue that white women's yoni's are pinker on the inside and therefore that's what they like the bright pinkness. I also know to many men yoni has no race factor attached to it, and as long as any woman lets them stab the womb they could careless what race she was attached to. While I think they should be more discerning in their taste I can't make that call for anyone. I hate to think of myself as the last one standing when it comes to dating, wanting, loving, black men exclusively but that is what I want in my life by my side until death parts us. I can not see myself with anyone else that is not what my heart calls for, that is not what speaks to my spirit. I never will understand how someone can look into the eyes of someone so unfamiliar cultural wise and feel love and a spark of sexual interest. I have even attempted just to see if I was programed wrong but nope non-black men do absolutely nothing for me. It also angers me when others question me as IF I am in the wrong because exclusively I love black men, as if I'm doing something wrong for stating that or wanting that.
I know the figures, I've heard the arguments I've read the stories and seen the television reports about it. The new phenomenon of black women marrying outside of their culture. Why is it such a news worthy story when black men and white men been doing it for years? When black women do it, it becomes a anomaly of sorts, news worthy. Something is very wrong with that, I always tell my brothers look at a persons motivation before you agree to go their way. I also tell them that if you cut something like coffee with milk you change the flavor and you weaken the strength of the coffee. Please don't come to my blog with that mixed babies are beautiful crap, black babies are beautiful also and all children are a blessing, but not everyone should be a parent! It has always been my assessment that until every cold civil rights case is solved, until the detriment of slavery has been properly acknowledge, along with white privilege, and until we as a people can get ourselves together culturally, and emotionally then I don't think we should be so happy to jump into the lap of someone else's culture because ours needs to still be worked on and this will be my platform my point of view until black people stop dumbing down and sweeping our emotional, mental, issues under the rug.
Allow me to introduce you to Tim Wise, this is the longer clip of him speaking if you have the time I advise you to watch it.
Before you get too excited and think that this is a Tyler Perry bashing post think again. I notice that in the black culture we have spawned a new fraction of folks. I like to call them the intellectuals, the high-browed individuals that do their all to break with the ties of yesterday. They are the sons and daughters of 1 generation buppies, the folks that broke out the ghetto's, the hoods, the poor south, and pulled themselves up and got enough money to run from everything their parents stood for and represented.
They frown on "hooping and hollering religion" they prefer churches that are sedate and less emotional when they go. They frown on what they call plantation food and of course they don't dare press their hair, or use grease. They stick to perms, get high lights, wear cashmere sweaters and only eat at euro-Asian cuisine restaurants. They join ritzy health clubs they stay getting pedis and medis they stay getting facials, they are the superstars of in mixed society. You can recognize them by their skinny jeans, their frohawks, they are the ones that sound Caucasian they have an affinity for European bands that have whiny moody music they talk about all the cars they have driven, want or need, they live by their blackberry's they covet their designer dogs and coffee and they are as unblack as they can get with pigment.
They don't care about culture they have broken from the past and they are too far removed from slavery and the ghetto, that is all beneath them many don't even bother learning about their history they have their eyes firmly on the prize that huge bank account that finally has enough money in it to erase their color. This is the goal of the new "intellectual black" they go out of their way to prove they are good, and righteous and as unnegro as possible so as not to offend. They use whole words they enunciate, they speak in tones that are mild and not with too much bass as not to cause undo concern in their Caucasian counterparts. They even have Caucasian/Asian/ or Spanish wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, and shop at j. crew H&M and the gap because Jcpenny's is too common. They wouldn't be caught dead in an old fashioned Cadillac but they pay 60k for a Cadillac truck but please don't put any ghetto rims on them and no they don't want it in black please only the champagne colored one with the slight window tint. No we don't need extra bass how passe!
These same folks frown heavily on the masses of black folk that dare be common, loud, raucous, uncouth and who show to much emotion, who still depend on Jesus to give them everything, who don't/didn't go to college who only went to vocational school. Who have cars but live in apartments who are backwards in comparison, the same folks who might go see a Tyler Perry madea movie the misguided good "church" folks and their elk. What's as ridiculous as the stereotypes I typed above is the assumption that all black people who go to church or have "religion" want to see or even like Tyler perry movies. Why does one fraction of people have to be cubbyholed or branded with the same branding iron because of SOME?
I personally don't have anything against Tyler Perry, I like the movies he has made. I don't fault him for his characters or his way of thinking he is one man, just like many didn't like Spike Lee movies or John Singletons early movies I see all of the projects from these men individually with their own unique perspective and slant on the world. Every black person does not have to have the same freaking experience but we do have more commonalities than not. No matter how far you try and run from that or close the door on that fact it will always be there just as sure as your African features. So my "intellectual" black folk that hate the whole Tyler Perry franchise that's fine and that's your right, but I think its ridiculous to speak on something you have never even bothered to see. I think its ridiculous to say that because "religious" black folks keep supporting him he will keep making these movies, I think its ridiculous to keep throwing stones at Mr. Perry when you can simply go to his website and tell him that you want to see something different a closed mouth does not get fed.
If you are so offended and want him to do something better than perhaps you should start writing your own scripts, coming up with your own projects and then putting them on your own channels its great to complain about the issue and then keep it pushing and do nothing about it, but how productive is that? If you want to see a different voice in hollyweird then be that voice, be that change if you think you can do better why not get the "intellectual" faction together and start making the television programs, movies, books, music that you want to see and hear? If you got beef with the man then make your voice heard don't be shyNOTHING TO IT BUT TO DO IT!
A new president...A beautiful black family in office...people keep saying be the change you want to see in the world...there should be a blueprint or some form of footsteps to follow...why do the dumbest people think that they are outsmarting everyone else in the world...just because you are a hook or by crook individual does not make it right...the world does not revolve around the things that have personally happened to you...it would be nice if it did but it doesn't believe me I know this as a fact...why can mymother gleam money out of the air but she can't manage it well...why she keep talking divorce but she still here...I want to go back to school badly but money IS a object, my stumbling block...grants loans scholarships...schools are now harder to get into and the money is hard to come by...Does Jesus even hear me when I pray...I am so tired mentally and emotionally it manifest itself physically sometimes... HEwasn't even worth 20 minutes but he got under my skin never again, if he was on fire I wouldn't even piss on him...will my family ever be alright...will change happen for me...what am I not doing in the right way...Blessings are few and far between....I.am.an.Island.of.1.
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Since I give you nothing but raw food for thought most days I decided I would give you some feel good gooey starchy comfort food with a little get to know you quiz, courtesy of Odeezy aka closet freak from over at GIMMIE THE GOODIES
*Birthplace: INGLEWATTS *Right Handed or Left Handed:RIGHT *Who was your kindergarten teacher? Iont recall *What is your favorite type of ice cream?:BEN AND JERRY'S *Ever been Drunk:HELL TO DA YES, I DO NOT LIKE THAT NUCCA EARL *Number of Piercings:2 *Basketball Or Football:BASKETBALL *What album are you ashamed to have?:THAT HARLEM WORLD CD, DIDN'T EVEN LISTEN 2 IT BUT ONCE (HANGS HEAD IN SHAME) *What would you do if a leprechaun jumped out of the bushes and stole ur wallet?:WHAT IN DA HELL Y'ALL SMOKING ON, Y'ALL SEE LITTLE GREEN MEN IN Y'ALL HOODS? *Would you rather get raped by Micheal Jackson or Elton John?:EWWWW CAN I TAKE NEITHER FOR 100 PLEASE *Hugs or Kisses?:KISSES *Name 4 things you always have with you:ID CASE, KEYS, SENSE, SOUND MIND *Favorite Perfume/Cologne:ANYTHING ESCADA *Who did let the dogs out? :JOE MOMMA LOL *Have you ever been in a physical fight? How Many?:Yep WAY 2 MANY 2 COUNT *Can you Whistle?: Yep *What is your weapon of choice? Words,AND KNIVES OR A BOX CUTTER IN A PINCH *Who was the last person who got really angry at you? PROBABLY A LITTLE BROTHER *What is your pet peeve?WHEN NASTY MOFO'S BLOW THEIR NOSE AT THE TABLE WITH THEIR NAPKIN, SHIT IS JUST GROSS! *Weirdest Dream...: CAN'T RECALL *Favorite Villain...: ANY ONE THAT WAS BAD AND GOT AWAY *Guys in pink are...SENSITIVE THUGS *Have you ever fallen up the stairs? Hell yeah *You are the first to arrive at the scene of an accident but it turns out that the person hurt is your worst enemy, do you help or walk away?KICK EM WHILE THEY LYING THERE AND PROBABLY SPIT ON EM (DON'T JUDGE ME I'M WORKING ON MYSELF LOL) *Join the Military or the Mob? Mob *Turn a close friend in if they committed a serious offense ex. murder? DON'T ASK DON'T TELL *Make one porno if it meant never having to work again? BRING IT ON BABY AND THEN I'M TAKING MY MONEY AND MYSELF TO A REMOTE ISLAND *What is one thing you actually remember from kindergarten?NAPPING EVEN WHEN YOU NOT TIRED, AND THAT SNACK TIME CAME AFTER. *If you could punch one person who would it be?DAMN JUST ONESWSNBN JUST RIGHT TO THE DOME *What is the worst injury you ever had? HAVEN'T HAD ANY *Has a rumor ever been spread about you?PROBABLY BUT WHO GIVES A DAMN
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*Your favorite celebrity comes to visit you? DAMN EUGENE BYRD I HAVE LOVED YOU SINCE YOUR EARLY FAMILY MOVIES, LETS MAKE THIS THING OFFICIAL *Someone cut off a chunk of your hair?TAKE THE OPPORTUNITY TO CUT ALL MY HAIR OFF AND DYE IT A DIFFERENT COLOR *You found 10 dollars on the ground?HEAD STRAIGHT TO THE WALMART *A random stranger offered you candy?IS THIS A TRICK QUESTION? IS IT CHOCOLATE? *A genie granted you one wish?RICH, BEAUTIFUL, AND POWERFULRead more...
