First and foremost well all new and old readers & lovely followers it does my old cantankerous soul good to see that my follower count is finally creeping up its never about quantity always about quality, so I would rather grow slow instead of shooting up fast that means you are in it for the long haul as readers. Enough mushy let's get straight to the meat!
Proverbs 18:22 (New Living Translation)
In case you are interested in reading the scripture that describes a A WIFE OF NOBLE CHARACTER of course if you want to read the scripture just click on the words.
22 The man who finds a wife finds a treasure,
and he receives favor from the Lord.
I know my last post was about sex but I got to really thinking about it and turning things over in my mind about it and I got some more stuff I wanted to talk about involving sex and since this is the month of black history and valentines day I'm going to keep my love/sex series going so leave your opinions and thoughts because I value learn and grow from the constructive opinions of my readers and random passer-bys.
Ladies and gentlemen if you happen to read this blog I know you should know be familiar with the term Beat and Skeet™ if you're going to use the term please reference THE 78 MS. J thanks. Anywho I know this debate has been going on since Eve bit the apple and Adam threw her under the bus for it
I believe that people have forgotten that you CAN NOT separate your spirit from your mind, emotions and feelings. Every time you lay down with someone you are sharing more than just a nut you are exchange life forces, there is a reason why men and women are built the way that they are. Sex is not meant to be recreational its meant for a much deeper connection I don't think a lot of people understand that. Every person that you sleep with you take into yourself their life force their energy, their fluids, we are human beings made up of flesh, blood, organs and spiritual energy and that gets exchanged every time you have sex with someone. That is a serious thing and in this day and age it is taken way to lightly.
Now I know many women who say if they are feeling someone they should be able to just give it up and let the dude hit that the first time they meet/go out and still be seen as decent women, the truth is ladies we are the thinkers, the ones who are emotional, and yes as outdated as it may seem or you want it to be we are the holders of our own virtue! So if you let a dude hit it the first time/day you guys hang out/have a date then yes you will be branded a hoe. Now if you are not looking for a man/long term relationship/marriage and you just like testing penis and mattresses out then by all means girl do you (please use condoms birth control and get regularly screened for STD's HIV/AIDS) This is for the ladies that are trying to be seen as marriage material not for those who just want to have "fun".
Now I have to be completely honest with you, I know realistically in this day and age nobody is waiting until they get married to have sex, but when you do wait a decent amount of time and then you eventually end up having sex does it wreck the relationship or take it to the next level and after you do that how much longer then should it take for him to want to wife you? What if you put your best freak nasty moves on him but he doesn't wife you, and the relationship breaks up then what? Have you then sold your virtue to the highest bidder? I understand that not everyone you date/have a relationship with is going to be marriage material for you but if you keep sleeping with all these different people...doesn't it take some of the specialness and sacredness out of the act of sex and intimacy? If you have done all your finest tricks with everyone before you get married what do you have left? Maybe its just me...but these are some of the questions that go through my mind. This is probably why I haven't tripped over not really having anyone in my life because I know eventually we are going to come to this road and to me sex has become overrated and tired. It has been whored and exploited to no ends until we are desensitized to it and it shouldn't be that way it should be new fresh and pleasant not old stale and unsatisfying but I digress.
If you are a long term reader by now you should already know how I feel about just jumping in the bed with any and everybody, you have to pace yourself and you have to value yourself you can't throw your pearls before swine and think that the swine is going to appreciate them it just doesn't work that way. We need to tell our daughters, nieces, sisters, sister-friends, and all the women in our lives that being a woman is a hard job and yes as much as you want to be free from restrictions there are rules to this thing called life. As we get older we are able to sift through the lies, and the messages that are filtered through the media and we should be able to recognize the truth, even though the world is full of people having sex it does not make it so for those of us who are really in the dating trenches. Yes we all have our set backs but ladies anything worth having is worth working for, if he doesn't have to work to get it then in his mind you lose a lot of your shine and value. You don't even have to take my word for it ask your fathers, brothers, cousins, the men in your life that will tell you the truth, or just watch the following videos.
VIDEOS that are hitting on realness:
