LET'S MAKE A DEAL MY CAUCASIAN PERSUASIONS

Better late then never this is a Barack Obama supporting blog not because he's black but because he is the better choice between the two candidates and if he wasn't ask yourself why would the republican candidates need to do so much mud slinging on his name? Worried perhaps? If you have lived in this country and you really think that everything is fine and dandy since Bush has been in office not only are you an idiot but quite possibly you need to give me your job, if you can't see that Bush has plunged the world into tremendous deficit then again you are an idiot. If you can't see that bush sent troops to the middle east just to Bogart and get more oil wells for himself and his homeboys then yes please eradicate yourself immediately Joe Six pack and Hockey mom I'm talking to you if you think that the world is not messed up now please wait for Mccan't and his home girl bible barbie to screw it up more but what am I saying silly me, this is the country that believes propaganda and scare tactics instead of dealing it with cold hard truths. Seriously do you really want someone who is one heart beat away from being in the grave and then "Hockey Mom you better not have sex but her kids don't listen to her anyway palin" as the future leader of the world? Oh wait I forgot it's because she is a Maverick.




Look on a serious tip we gave you OJ Simpson take him and put him under the jail, and black people will never get reparation's, hell you even took back affirmative action so listen what say we call it even and you do black people this one solid and vote for the best candidate out there who just happens to be half black, and I will forget about all the civil rights violations (not really but it sounds good) and even how you still exploit black people in this day and age what say you my YT masses, can you get with the program this one time???? I will even make it my personal mission to keep my real flesh and blood brothers away from your precious daughters and I'll even make you some collard greens with smoked turkey you know you like ethnic foods I'll even have someone cornrow your hair with extensions, so we got a deal?

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BABY BABY BABY

You ever try and paint a pretty picture with ugly colors? Or how about you ever try and drive a truck that's stuck in the mud uphill? How about you ever try and lift a 100 pounds with a weak back and no help? Anyone feel where I am going with this??? I don't know about anyone else I can only answer for myself but seriously 30 is a pivotal age no more sitting around counting the days. There are certain biological factors that start to come into play and if you have had biology or even developmental psych you understand what I mean. At 30 the body starts to say ok sis either move it or lose it. By 30 you really need to decide if you are going to have some kids and if so you need to get a move on. The older you get the more at risk your pregnancy becomes, and your age and health directly effect your unborn child.



Halle Berry is a prime example there was a story in the news when she was pregnant about her being upset because her prenatal chart said she was a high risk pregnancy and that is true she was a high risk pregnancy. Especially after 40 you run the risk of:

Pregnant patients of advanced maternal age (AMA) are at increased risk for a multitude of pregnancy complications, including gestational diabetes mellitus, preeclampsia, placenta previa and intrauterine growth restriction. All of these conditions have been associated with a higher rate of stillbirth.

These are some of the risk associated with having children late but of course if an older woman is healthy and has good health care her risk are significantly lower but there are still issues that one has to consider long and hard when waiting later in life to have a child heaven forbid you want more than one after 40. Something to think about also is having a child in your 40's means that well into your 60's is when the child will be in their 20's it is something really to think about. You can't just up and decide one day that you want kids it shouldn't be that way. Children shouldn't be an afterthought or an accident, or a condom busted consequence. I have learned that you can't think about just the moment you have to order your life and shoot for your goals. Hindsight is always a bitch but you can't undo time you have to press forward and step lightly. I write these posts with the best intention if I can give someone pause to think about things that is going on right now, especially with young African American women and the choices that we tend to make if I can give one something to think about and she is better for it then I have help someone. If I can travel the road and save you from the same pitfalls I fell in please allow me to do it, no need for both of us to end up broken and bruised by falling in the same life traps.




I don't profess to tell women how they should live nor how they should think but at the threshold of 30 my thinking became a whole lot different and things to me begin to become different they changed and become clearer life decisions become more focused and of course priorities shifted. The purpose of this blog is really to see how life defines itself with me being 30, I can't speak for no one else but 30 is a threshold. I'm not even looking at my 20's anymore I have closed the chapter on them and I am focusing on the future and the long unforeseen road ahead of me. Considering the current climate of relationships in the BPYT community adoption is looking like the way to go *sigh*

http://www.africanamericanadoptionsonline.com/index.html

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MARRIAGE IS A GOOD LOOK

I was going to do this from another angle but I decided to come at it from this one. A healthy happy marriage is a good look!



There I said it and I mean it what you want to say about it? I know the current sentiment is that marriage is outdated, for the birds, and just not en-vogue in some circles but smart people, people with sense they're getting married! Case in point even though she married the love of my life Beyonce AKA Mrs. Carter-Knowles married Shawn Corey Carter because it's a good look. I'm sure there is love in there some where and by itself her portfolio is nice but together their portfolio's combined equal power brokers. It's just smart business at the end of the day his money plus her money even in a weak economy they still sitting some where on reserves like what's a recession??? Before they even exchanged vows they bought property together and most often when the economy is good property equals reserved money because of the equity that you can pull out of your house when you need to.



Back on course any person in their right mind should know that two incomes is always better than one, a helpmate is always better than being solo, and having someone to come home to consistently with the same last name as yours who has some responsibility for being there verses a boyfriend girlfriend type who really can walk away without any legal recourse or a second thought because there is no real investment there. Even despite being together for more than a couple years, a few I love yous, swapping DNA on a regular basis, but still no legal ties that to me equals not a good look but that is my opinion.



What I can't ever figure out is why you would shack up all that time playing house but not take that extra step to make it official? The common consensus is always that marriage would destroy a shacking couples bliss and some how change the dynamics of the relationship now how can legitimizing something tear up what you have already been playing at? My next question then becomes why is suddenly getting married like a noose around the neck of a person who is already shacking up? It's just not logical, but somethings I will never understand. Some people hate the institution of marriage like it did something to them. Maybe they saw their parents marriage as a battleground or worst, but the funny thing about it is that I have watched my parents marriage and if you knew them you would know that it hasn't been any type of cakewalk by a long shot and in spite of everything they are still together and even with all that they have went through I still see marriage as a wonderful thing.

I once worked with a co-worker who had a bunch of kids and was with her dude shacking for years in fact they were now considered common law married but he refused to marry her in a on paper exchange last name give me a ring type deal. He told her that he didn't need a piece of paper to be with her and in a sense he was right he had been leasing the farm way to long. The sad part about it is she wanted to get married but she couldn't convince her dude and in turn she was way too steeped in the relationship plus with all her kids she was stuck and he knew it so marriage to him was no big deal she had sold her options and was now stuck. My heart went out to her truly but you get what you allow, if you think you only worth a shack up then you will get a shack up type arrangement, if you're good enough to knock up and shack with why aren't you good enough to carry his last name and be the Mrs?



I know Marriage is hard work it needs constant tending, love, care, communication, nurturing, sharing, listening to each other, and a good degree of unselfishness, I'm not foolish to think that it is easy but nothing worth having is ever easy. I think that raising your children in a two parent household is a good look, it provides a security for children even if you are dirt poor. Just knowing that mommy and daddy are there even if nothing else is, is a type of security you just can't duplicate.



No disrespect to the single mothers and fathers who aren't married like I said this is my opinion to me it just makes sense but I see things different from others. My opinions don't make me popular but it's cool aliens always catch hell for being different. Despite the current anti-marriage sentiment amongst my contemporaries the "stars" are doing it. Some keep doing it but a shining example of great black in the media couples is none other than our future first lady Michelle Obama and her husband President Obama. Even when under tremendous media pressure you can see the love in their marriage the beauty in their union and the partnership that they share. Another couple that manages to get it right is defiantly Jada and Will Smith I don't care how they work the dynamics of their relationship out they still manage to make it work even in the industry that they are in which eats couples up like breath mints. Even Usher and Tameka, and lets not forget Nick and Mimi.



The funny part is homosexual couples are fighting for and desperately wanting the right to call their unions marriages and heterosexuals are taking for granted not even caring about the institution of marriage at all anymore if that isn't irony then I don't know what is. Maybe in the next 20 years homosexuals will be calling their unions marriage and heterosexuals won't be getting married at all. That's a bleak outlook for the future of America in my opinion, but it is what it is. Read more...

SAVE THE TATAS

If you have ever loved, been with, had a woman in your life then more than likely she has had tatas. Breast have been called many names by many people some women even name their breast and that is fine and dandy love all parts of yourself equally it's a good look, but with the sweets come the bitters and that bitter can be a devastating invasion in the form of cancer. It is important to self examine one's breast and to get yearly checkups and mammograms. No one wants a ticking timebomb in their body, with early detection there are preventive measures that one can take. So if you love yourself, your breast, and health make sure you are keeping on top of your breast health and your health in general.

Remember to also support the cause so show your support for breast cancer awareness month which is the whole of october. If you buy pink this month make sure that at least some of the proceeds are going back to breast cancer foundations or research efforts, there are some bandwagon folks who lie about giving back when they are pocketing all of the money.

Some BYPT breast cancer stores, and websites:



http://www.pinkribbons.org/
http://www.savethetatas.com/
http://www.pinkribbonshop.com/
http://www.thinkbeforeyoupink.org/Pages/ParadeOfPink.html
http://cms.komen.org/komen/index.htm"
http://www.torrid.com/torrid/store/nodePage.jsp?FOLDER<>folder_id=2534374302037562 Read more...

SEXY, SEXY, SEXY

Okay my lovelies let's get it on and poppin' I am so behind in posting blogs. I was just trying to find a skin I was comfortable in and this one is a good look, but if I need to revamp I will. Trying to build a brand, a movement so grow with me, roll with me now let's get it on!

Somethings I want to talk about first and foremost how sexy is Usher's new video?!? I felt like I was watching some erotica with a great soundtrack, and I wasn't complaining not at all in fact Usher made me want to trade places. I know shocked face but... it is what it is I think my thinking is changing in some ways, still not up for being a jump off, but I might start relaxing my sexual policies just a wee bit, anywho back to Mr. Raymond this video was a good look this BPYT greatly approves.



2nd video is from an artist that needs some love. This artist is greatly slept on Lyfe Jennings; his song will I ever has a gospel feel to it and the lyrics...you know how you go to church and the pastor seems to be preaching exactly to you and what you're going through? Well Mr. Jennings does that so eloquently on this very track and the video is a good look too it's not over done it's just right and it gives the songs lyrics a chance to shine. Plus Toccarra who I stan for is in the video looking classy and sassy she is mos def A BPYT all the way. I love her style and she looks like a regular woman in this video no over done make-up and hair just a regular around the way girl and I appreciate that. Mr. Jennings you are most def on my my BPYT approves list!



Stay tuned for more of what you're looking for that's right the dating in cali series. Where you can only get it how I have lived it, cause we the best, the best BYPT that is. Read more...