tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4159209783484594731.post5230271440368667348..comments2023-05-16T07:56:10.509-07:00Comments on A BPYT'S BLOG: BECAUSE U ASKED ME 2THE 78' MS. Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13752294635301998277noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4159209783484594731.post-27902286327016228202008-12-22T08:46:00.000-08:002008-12-22T08:46:00.000-08:00Hey ms j. happy holidays lady how are you. You kno...Hey ms j. happy holidays lady how are you. You know who this is :-) <BR/>I am having a bit of an internal dilemma and I wanted some of your advice. I have only had 3 serious relationships and while I think that I know a lot about being in a relationship and pleasing me, one of my married friends is telling me that I really don’t know much. One because they occurred when I was so young, and the other because I have not had my own place yet. Deep down inside I am still longing for a loving, long term serious relationship. I have not dated much because I think that it’s a waste of time and I don’t like bombarding myself with a bunch of people. I would rather find my one and chill. I have been abstainant almost 2 years and my friend is telling me I need a fuck buddy. I tried that once (recently in fact) and I don’t like being intimate with someone that is not exclusive and commited . I know I am guilty of being unrealistic but I am so scared of dating. I want to put myself out there and try to meet guys, but I still believe somewhere inside that I will me “the one” man that was meant for me. i am pushing 30, and while a few friends are telling me i need to hurry because i'm getting old, i also want to enjoy my time and not rush children or marriage for anyone.<BR/><BR/><BR/>I know that a lot of people have random cut buddies but that is so not me even though I have intense urges sometimes. I am also still insecure about a lot of aspects in my life and I am afraid that maybe once I start dating that the man that is on my level or beyond may not want me. What should I do miss J? I want to be loved and free so bad. I want to be intimate again but not just on some cut buddy stuff? How do I remain true to myself and find out what’s best for me. How do I get over my fear of dating.? I want to mature in this aspect of my life, but I don’t want to deal with a lot of the headache and drama that comes from dating. Thanks lady j and I hope you don’t mind this essay and giving me your honest experienced response. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com